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I suppose the first question is, do you believe it is real? Is it cheating and where is the line between flirting and cheating? Any thoughts?
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If you are having regular conversations with somone on line, and you would not be comfortable having your husband/wife see those communications, then it is cheating…that’s the line.
Most of us created monogamy agreements before cybersex was an option. Now we need to discuss with our partner whether this is acceptable in the relationship or not. Often men will say, and truly believe, “It’s not cheating — I never even met her!” and women will say, “You’re getting off with her instead of me, it’s cheating.” It needs to be discussed, preferably before it happens.
life just gets more complicated, doesn’t it? in this instance, he has met her and is planning to continue to do so as part of the group on the forum at the minimum I think I could probably forgive him in time, if it weren’t for this intent.
ps: I have also read/heard opinions from men on the subject and while many use the excuse that it’s not cheating because it’s not IRL, there are plenty who feel that it is indeed cheating and no different from IRL.
Sorry TBL, but I think you should dump his sorry ass!
check out the blog called internet affair. It was most enlightening especially when I discovered my husband’s emails to another woman. He told me it was all fantasy but when he talks about having her run into his arms after she learns about our separation, I do wonder. I thought we were separating for irreconcilable differences but then I found out he has been online chatting/flirting/dating? for over a year. I now think I was very easily replaced. He once told a friend that nice women are a dime a dozen and a nice man is rare. I do miss the nice man he once was.
Absolutely it is cheating. You don’t have to be physical with someone in order for it to be called cheating. There is what is called an emotional affair. When you are in a relationship/marriage with a man you expect him to be faithful to you. I have known so many marriages and/or relationships that have broken up due to on line cheating. The men meet these women on line they share anything and everything with them about themselves as do the women they are chatting with. Maybe in the beginning it starts out harmless in their eyes. They try and justify it somehow in their minds. But, it usually leads to something more serious. Then they exchange pictures sometimes nude photos of themselves too. Then they go online with the video cam and chat and have cyber sex. Then they want to meet in person after that.
I too have heard men say that there not cheating because they have not met the woman or the woman lives in another state and all we do is talk as friends. Well, I was in a relationship with a man for almost 4 years and he told me these things when I confronted him about his cheating online. I accidentally one day while at his home found nude photos of this woman on his computer when I was looking for our vacation photos. He lied to me when I confronted him about the photos and he continued to lie to me about this woman. I actually got ahold of this womans email address and I emailed her. I found out she did not know about me until later. But, she still continue to send photos of herself to my boyfriend even after I confronted her about it. Again, myboyfriend said they were just friends and that he did not cheat on me because he never had sex with her. They only talked over the phone and online so it was ok in his eyes. I told him no it is an emotional affair and by her sending photos of herself naked and talking to him over the phone crossed the line. He still to this day stands by he was not cheating. In this day we live in they can text message go online and doe all sorts of things nowdays. It is cheating as far as I am concerned. Especially if they hide it from you. Oh, yes, I forgot to mention that I asked my boyfriend if he was not cheating on me then why did he not tell me about this so called friend?? He said because I knew you would go crazy on me and get angry and upset. What does that tell you?????
It tells me he was selfishly indulging himself and lying to you, that’s what it tells me. Am I right that you’re no longer with this cad?
I stand by the need to make sure “what is cheating?” is discussed and agreed upon when the relationship is young and new, or revisiting this if it’s long-term. That way he can’t claim he didn’t think it was cheating.