Step #1 Stop Making Excuses about the Reasons You’re Dating over 50!
Do you tell yourself and everyone around you that as a woman over 50, NOW just isn’t a good time in your life to date? If so, you’re likely to be alone for a long time. Just like you schedule important meetings for work, you want to schedule your dating life as well. Start by finding about 20-30 minutes a day to spend either online or in the real world meeting men.
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Step #2 Decide Why You’re Dating!
Would you like a male friend you could take to an event or to a movie or dinner from time to time so you don’t have to go by yourself? Or do you desire a husband to share your life with? You need to know why you’re dating so you know what type of man and relationship you are looking for.
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Step #3 Be Realistic About Men
Are you looking for the cutest and coolest guy out there to be your boyfriend just like you did in high school? We’ve all aged, so cute is probably not the same as it was back then. But, a man can turn cute in your eyes literally overnight as you bond with him. So give Average Joe a chance when you can. He is more likely to make a better boyfriend than Mr. Hottie will any day.
Step #4 Be Visible in the World So Men Can Find You
Do you stay at home every night with your cat watching TV? If so you aren’t going to meet a lot of men. Sadly, they don’t just fall out of the sky onto your doorstep-although it would be nice if they did. So get out there now and look for activities in your area or check out dating sites that involve the type of men you’d be interested in.
Step #5 Flirt and Have Fun!
It’s probably been a long time since you’ve flirted so it may take some practice on your part to do it well again. Start by smiling at every man you see. Most will smile back at you. Both online and during dates, be playful. Use the type of conversation and flirty behavior you’d use at a cocktail party.
Step #6 Commit to Going After Your Dream Man
Dating can get hard. When you find yourself rejected by a guy you really like or you feel you’ve seen every man there is to see online, you may want to quit. Don’t! Keep at it and do what it takes to find your Mr. Right.
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Step #7 Get Dating Help and Support When You Need It
Women quit dating and miss out on meeting the man they are meant to be with because they just don’t have the skills and techniques to deal with the dating challenges that come up. When you think about it, we weren’t taught how to date back in our youth.
In fact, most of us just sort of fell into relationships and ended up marrying that high school or college sweetheart. Don’t be embarrassed about getting help if you are struggling in the dating arena. Look for dating programs or dating coaches and get the tools and skills that will make your dating journey so much easier for you.
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Dear God!!! the vows were written by a man (and a self-serving one obviously). The background way back them was for women to be subservient to men. Really?? And we are still advancing at slightly more than a glacial pace. Stay?
I first heard of this word when I took part in the Winter Feast For the Soul. I have been a follower of the meditation teacher Davidji from the Chopra Center for two years now and he taught a lesson on this during the Feast. I play that downloaded me
Thank you so much for your encourageing wisdom and guidence.
So many people put such a dark spin on women over 50 who chose to leave bad marriages later in life. Some want us to believe we are doomed to wander the streets alone or sit at home with their cats.
Love it, Love it.
I do not think it is a negative spin. It is information she never thought of, it may be a summary of experiences that were overall unpleasant. You are fortunate to have found someone perfect for you. For others, like me (and many others), the pattern of choice and result has not been examined so we are highly likely to pick the same guy, different face, and with slightly more exaggerated unpleasant behaviour. The unexamined life is ripe for a repeat of the experience until some transformation occurs. That is the life that cautions others to be sure of their next huge decision.
Hi Darcy
When I first started dating in my 40′s, my ex found my profile online…back then anyone could view you. He said to me-”It sounds like you are looking for a clone of me.”
Looking back, he was right. After a 24 year marriage, it was all I knew. And until I healed the wounds from that marriage, I chose versions of my ex over and over again.
It took me years and a second marriage and divorce with the same type of man as my first ex before I finally healed what needed healing. So I think you are very right when you say we choose the same man over and over again.
Thank you for such good insight
Glad you liked this post MsJuJuBean. Love your name too! And kudos to you for having the courage to get out of an abusive marriage. There is no such thing as security in a relationship like that! You were probably always scared of the next attack. That’s no way to live.
I always loved my time alone. I still do even though I’m in a great relationship. I think being alone is far better then being in a bad relationship so again good for you for recognizing this then putting yourself in a better place. Hope its going well for you. Lots of hugs to you!!!!
I’m not sure if you thought I meant the writer, I meant people in my life.
When I mention the negetive spin I’m referring to some of my friends and family.
One friend in paticular suggested I stay in an emotionally abusive marriage because, at least I would have security, a roof over my head and “safe”. He shared his concerns of my finding anyone again to share my life with.
I found this message encouraging, I sent him a copy of it.
I am thinking (she said cynically) that someone with a really bad cough who travelled a lot would be the ideal mate.