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I’m not really a loner, although I do like some alone time.
My most happy times:
- I collect beach glass to make jewelry, so my walks on the beach every Saturday morning…..cup of good coffee….conversations with God (you know the ones where you tell him what he should be doing with your life!!)….and finding treasures along the shore….meeting people on the beach and having a great connection with them…
- I sell at craft shows, that is a happy time….I love meeting and talking to all the different people…different from my day to day job.
- I love creating my jewelry and making people happy wearing it (and not charging an arm and a leg)…
- I love walking through a garden center dreaming of a dream garden….I love working in the earth, the smell, the potential…
But truly I am always happy with just an “ordinary” day….where I can get up, thank God for another day, reach over and touch the wonderful man next to me….have coffee on my sunporch, head out to work and hopefully be productive….come home to a nice dinner with the man in my life, a snuggle on the couch watching TV….with the woodstove making the room all toasty and warm…some laughs, some plans…falling asleep together…calling my kids, knowing they are all doing okay.
I have had a lot of crazy times in my life and more good times…but those crazy times make me so appreciate a day without drama.
As for making friends:
I moved to a new community about 3 years ago.
- I just try to jump in where I can, talk to as many people as I can.
- I joined a community chorus.
- Started doing these craft shows (I always try to do the local ones), and I just talk, talk, talk.
- I met a great gal as a vendor at a local flea market and we aren’t friends yet, but I would call her a good acquaintance.
- If you aren’t much of a “joiner,” I would try to change that perception of myself, and start saying well, I’ll try to join, I mean what’s the worst that could happen? You might not like it and then you just unjoin.
It really isn’t as scary as you think. I just jump in, even if I am a little uncomfortable…..I persist until I am comfortable and have made a connection with a couple of people. It takes time, but it does work.
[This comment was originally posted in this conversation. ~ Eds.]
How do you make friends when you move to a new community?