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Just a few ideas I would like to add if you wear all black all of the time (like me). An article in the January 2012 edition Real Simple magazine gave me some good ideas on how to dress your age and not like an old lady. I have given a few of them a try.
1.) Stop wearing “matchy-matchy” jewelry. This proved relevant for me as I tend to buy the whole set (though not wearing all of the items at once). Instead, go for similar textures, colors, etc. I realized that I always reach for the same pieces to wear together when I decide on what to wear. Do any of you feel like you do that too? Try a bold statement piece, and then pair with contrasting yet complementary items. I feel like I have twice the jewelry now that I’m mixing it up more.
2.) Stop with the enormous black purse that you could literally fit your kitchen sink into. Same with the shoes. Never having a lot of money, I always stuck with black shoes and handbags since they go with everything. Now I have a much smaller steel-blue purse with both a removable shoulder and regular strap. I usually don’t even bother with the shoulder strap because it falls down constantly anyhow. I also kept a similar purse by the same manufacturer and it is in a velvety, “not-quite-fur” material in gold to wear with my gold ”foil” gladiator shoes. I also have several different shades of brown shoes and NEVER had gold ”foil” shoes before! I know that I will never be a red-shoe kind of gal, but these small changes have really made difference in how I think and feel about the way I dress now.
3.) Stop wearing “boxy” clothing. With an apple-shaped figure, this is a tough one to apply to myself. But I stopped buying cute cardigans, and bought a jeans vest, and a darling blue jeans shrug. Its just another way for me to hide my belly and here in Florida, layering needs to be lightweight. I have to “alter” most of my clothing now at my age, but sometimes, just an inch or two taken in can make the all the difference in the world. Remember, not too loose, and not too tight-slinky, slightly form-fitting is the best fit. Properly fitting clothing is the best thing in the world and if you are fortunate enough to have had a mother who taught me you how to sew like me, its going to be a lot cheaper. But you can learn to do simple alterations with iron-on hemming tape (melts into the fabric to hold a seam), sewing on buttons, etc., you can do a bit yourself. Otherwise, you must decide if you can either afford a tailor or pay a friend to help out. (It would be much cheaper).
Well, these are the ones that I have applied. Some of the others were quite obvious (at least to me ) but here goes:
- STOP wearing “work-out’ clothes; except to well, work-out. Those matching pantsuit-type sweat-”outfits” that all of the “Housewives of Everywhere” wear. And don’t wear flip-flops except at the beach, pool, or your own backyard. Believe me, this is a biggie in Orlando. Even the locals wear “wife-beater” tanks, too-short shorts and flip-flops-disgusting!
- no head to toe pastels,
- no matching sets of any kind,
- no orthopedic-looking shoes, and lastly,
- no wide-cut capri pants. If you must wear capris (and yes, I have had to give in with the heat here), then make sure they are slim cut.
Hope this helps others out there who may be stuck in a mold when it comes to the way they dress too. And hey, I haven’t once missed my black purse!
[These recommendations were originally posted in this conversation. ~ Eds.]