If you’re like many Americans, you’ve already given up on your New Year’s resolutions. Research shows that 80 percent of people who pledge in January to change their behavior have lost heart by Valentine’s Day. By Easter–well, forget it.
According to clinical psychologist Dr. Marion Jacobs, author of Take-Charge Living: How to Recast Your Role in Life…One Scene At A Time,
So whether you have a resolution you haven’t kept or a dream you haven’t stuck with, consider these tried-and-true ways to give your brain the evidence it needs:
- Set small, achievable goals.
Perhaps you’ve been wanting to go back to school and earn a degree but keep coming up with excuses. Set a goal of signing up for a single class or one-day workshop. If you enjoy it, chances are you’ll take another. If you don’t, at least you’ll have learned something about yourself. The same strategy applies to all sorts of endeavors. Want to write a memoir, but can’t get started? Write a page a day and you’ll have 365 by the end of the year. - Develop a specific action plan.
Think about what steps are necessary to achieve your goal and write them down to imprint them on your brain. (This is an important part of the process.) Make each step realistic enough to be non-negotiable. Goals like losing weight require multiple steps; others require just one step performed over and over. If you want to be more courageous, for example, commit to doing one thing a day that scares you. - Anticipate challenges.
If you’re trying to lose weight and have to attend a party where you know there will be lots of tempting treats, fill your stomach beforehand and limit yourself to one serving of dessert while you’re there. Whether you’re working toward a real estate license or learning to play the piano, don’t beat yourself up if you fail a test or miss a practice. From the get-go, tell yourself that if you fall off the wagon, you’ll get right back on. The most successful people in any discipline are not the ones who never fail, but the ones who persevere. - Reward yourself.
Remember being a child and getting a gold star when you accomplished a task? Whatever your age, it feels good to have your accomplishments recognized. It’s one of the ways we get motivated to keep making effort. So get in the habit of giving yourself not just a pat on the back but some tangible reward every time you meet one of your goals.
And the next time someone tries to convince you that you can’t change, say with confidence: “Yes, I can!”
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