Going through a divorce brings about a whole flood of emotions most of us didn’t realize we even had; whether it’s our choice, or we’re on the receiving end of the divorce papers.When I was newly divorced, people would say they were sorry and what a terrible thing to go through. I decided to say that I was “unmarried” with a smile on my face. I realized the negative connotation that came with the word divorce, and decided to change that word, which helped change my thinking about the whole experience.
While there are many benefits to being “unmarried,” I’ve highlighted a few that may apply to other areas in your life. A few of my clients have benefited from the following suggestions:
| 1. Reclaim your Identity As the title of wife (partner, spouse… feel free to add your own label here) has been put to rest, you now have the spotlight to reclaim your true identity of being a powerful woman. You’ll be developing courage you never knew possible. Your rediscovered power is pulsating to the surface as you experience your true identity that’s been hidden under your label as wife (or whatever you choose to put here). Honor and acknowledge your true identity as it surfaces. |
| 2. Revive your Independence You are back in charge to make your own decisions about each and everything in your life. What a wonderful sense of FREEDOM that brings. Where will I vacation this year? What restaurant do I want to eat at? Which of my friends will I spend time with this weekend? Do I feel like watching TV or reading a book? You have always been the creator of your experiences. As you make the transition of doing things by yourself, focus on the feeling of joy as you step into your power of making your own choices. |
| 3. Reconnect with your Soul Time to put yourself first. There is nothing selfish about putting your needs and wants ahead of others. While traveling in an airplane, we’re advised to receive oxygen first before we can help others during an emergency. There is great truth to that. How can we help others if we cannot help ourselves? During this time of transition, expect some additional downtime, which is a great opportunity to reflect. You are not alone. Your higher self is always eager to listen and provide answers to questions that you’ve been yearning to know. Grab a pen and paper and consider re-connecting to your higher self with the following questions:
By asking yourself connecting questions, it opens the communication to your higher self* as opposed to your ego**. During this transition, keep the lines of communication open by always asking for guidance for what is right in each and every moment. Look for the positive evidences that show up and write it down. There is always a silver lining in the dark cloud. |
**Ego: 1. The self, especially with overtones of self-importance. 2. The most conscious part of the mind, which mediates with one’s surroundings. (As defined by Wikipedia.)
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Sounds very interesting.
Spike, you are awesome! Love your perspective, thanks for sharing.
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