Thanks to the women who wrote to me about being blindsided by their soon to be ex. I still can’t get my head around it. I did buy a book that might help all of you. It’s called Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife’s Guide to Recovery and Renewal. It gives some insight into why they do what they do.
I still can’t figure this out. I do have a therapist and a lawyer. I saw my husband today and he told me his lawyer fired him. My lawyer was asking for too much. I wish I knew what he thought was going to happen. He seems so surprised that I’m asking for alimony, and his retirement from the Air Force Reserve. I truly think he thought I’d roll over and split it down the middle.
My daughter’s still don’t talk to me much, but I’m not backing down. Like I told my husband today. You started this mess, I’m not cleaning it up. 35 years of marriage and all he can tell me is “He hasn’t been happy for years”. When I ask why haven’t you told me about this, all I ever heard was you hate your job. Nothing about I don’t like you too much either. I know I’ll make it through, it just hurts.
Thanks for listening.