I am scared witless. I find myself getting my second divorce at 55. I am absolutely terrified. And lost. And the crazy thing is…I initiated it. I am even more terrified of staying in a marriage where I can’t find myself. No communication, little common ground – and that is tenuous and thin – no affection (and no desire for affection) – no sense of “this person considers me first.” And frankly he could probably say the same things about me. So why hold on? Loneliness with someone else in the room? Or peace. We just separated. I need advice.