Divorce after 30 years of marriage – 7 lessons I learned

September 1, 2015 at 9:30 am in Family & Relationships, Spirituality by VN Featured Comment

Today’s Featured Comment

From CBW

I, too, left a well-established marriage at age 60 after 38 years of marriage, and our divorce finalized 9 days past anniversary 39. ( There is no need to re-hash the reasons or the history, as the original question was about the lessons we’ve learned after being divorced late in life.)

These are some things I have learned:

  1. I have learned to live alone, having never had the experience in any of the previous 60 years.
  2. I have learned what I like to watch on TV because I now control the remote device.
  3. I have learned whom to trust and not to trust when seeking advice, whether financial or buying major items.
  4. I have learned that I don’t have to do all the home maintenance because there are good handymen in my community happy for the work; they get it right usually the first time and they don’t grumble and complain as they do the work.
  5. I have learned that I like making my own decisions without having to consider another’s opinions or asking permission or having to argue with that person before I can proceed.
  6. I have learned I like traveling on my own and doing what I want when I want, whether that is something or nothing at all.
  7. I have learned that I am happier now than anytime in the past because I am in charge of my life.  I am not rich but I am comfortable and can look at this post-divorce house and furnishings and everything else and say, “This I did for me.”

The sixth anniversary of my divorce was August 14.  I went out to dinner and had wine with me, myself and I.  We had a lovely time making plans for the coming year.

[This comment was originally posted in this conversation. ~ Eds.]

What life lessons did divorce teach you?

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