My husband had an affair over 10 years ago. We worked and worked and we made it through. However, there is still a part of me that has never fully trusted him. I looked through his phone yesterday and there were texts between him and a woman. I was devastated! I went through the betrayal all over again. When I confronted him he said he was just “playing!” He met her through a game that he plays online. He tells me he doesn’t know why he does this; he had no answer for me. Our sex life has been non-existent (I’m 56, he’s 53 and overweight, smokes and lethargic). I don’t know what to do. Actually, I do know. Get into therapy but I’m so heartbroken right now. I fought so hard the first time to save my marriage and now this. I don’t know if I really want to. He says he loves me and I’m the one he wants to be with and grow old with but after yesterday’s discovery I’m lost.
At our age, how do we meet people we actually want to date? And then, how do we navigate the tricky waters of dating and relationships at midlife? Time for some serious girl talk!