Husband is sex-texting

March 11, 2013 at 11:37 am in Love & Sex by kwilczyk

My husband had an affair over 10 years ago.  We worked and worked and we made it through.  However, there is still a part of me that has never fully trusted him.  I looked through his phone yesterday and there were texts between him and a woman.  I was devastated!  I went through the betrayal all over again.  When I confronted him he said he was just “playing!”  He met her through a game that he plays online.  He tells me he doesn’t know why he does this; he had no answer for me.  Our sex life has been non-existent (I’m 56, he’s 53 and overweight, smokes and lethargic).  I don’t know what to do.  Actually, I do know.  Get into therapy but I’m so heartbroken right now.  I fought so hard the first time to save my marriage and now this.  I don’t know if I really want to.  He says he loves me and I’m the one he wants to be with and grow old with but after yesterday’s discovery I’m lost.