How does it affect you self esteem when you are 6 years older than your husband? The age difference never mattered to me until now. I am 58 and my husband is 51 years old. I suddenly feel very vulnerable. I look in the mirror and see the age difference and don’t appreciate it one bit. I now wish I had married an older man, so that I would be the young one. I do everthing I can to stay healthy, and vibrant. I eat right, exercise, wear makeup to flatter and dress to flatter my best assets, but I feel like it’s a losing battle. If I feel this way now, how will I feel when I am 68 and he is 61 and so on? Is anyone else dealing with this situation?