I’ve been married for 24 years, and my husband and I haven’t had sex in 5 years. He has completely lost interest. It’s psychological, because he does wake in the morning with erections. He also says he masturbates, so he still has a sex drive. I think he’s not interested in me, he doesn’t find me sexy like he used to. I’m 53 years old, and even though I try to take care of myself, I’m not 23 anymore. I’m sad that intimacy is no longer a part of our relationship, and now it feels more like a roommate relationship rather than husband and wife. Should I stick with him? I often think of leaving. Living like this feels wrong. It’s a lie, a marriage without sex.
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