Hi. I am brand new to this site. I found it while browsing the subject “my partner is married” on the internet.
I just found (two weeks ago) that I man I had been seeing seriously for seven years is married. I suspected he had girlfriends but never that he was married. I am devastated and conflicted.
I have ended all communication with him, except for e-mails regarding finances. I am broke and jobless. I expect him to pay me money every month until I am employed. He’s giving me $ for basics. I feel he owes me something for the pain and humiliation he’s caused me. His apologies did nothing to alleviate these feelings. I can’t talk to friends or family about it, because I’m so embarrassed. I told them, though. Not much comfort from them.
I am conflicted because of his wife. I haven’t told her, but feel in my gut she has a right to know. I’m wondering if anyone out there has any advice. If your husband had been cheating on you – serious affair – for seven years, would you want to know? And, how would you react? What would be the best way to tell her? I can’t tell her – if I do – until I am financially on my feet – may take a few months – would this late telling anger the wife? I don’t want her mad at me! I need some objective advice. My mind is not clear and I am struggling with functioning.