EX- DAUGHTER- IN-LAW

July 21, 2010 at 2:52 pm in Family & Relationships by reno

I am in a marriage with step children and step in-laws. I am having trouble with the ex- step daughter in law which is being a big pain in my side. Her and my step-son is divorced now with 3 children. I have a 15 yr old daughter who loves her niece and nephews dearly. We always call to see if we may get them for a day or over night and there is always something the kids or herself is doing with them. The ex-daughter in law calls us out of the blue and relates to us we can start taking the kids on the weekends whenever we can. Not sure where this came from, us thinking change of heart with her, time had passed by with her. We jumped up on the offer not knowing when we may see them again. My husband, which just had heart surgery is not up to all 3 kids at one given time with out me being around. (With my job and school it is tough.) He states he would like to take them one on one. My husband calls and states to her he wanted to take the grandaughter (8 yrs old) first and there was a function that my daughter and her could attend along with (myself for a few hours) girl stuff…The ex-daughter -in-law decides this is ok and we could have her overnight. Let me remind you we have to check in with her on every move we make with her children. Sad but, ok if it gets us to see the grandkids. The next day my daughter has a friend call and ask if she could meet her at the fair for a few hours, they hadn’t seen each other since school let out. My daughter comes to me and ask if this is ok. I told her she could only go if she took her niece with her and called nieces mom to confrim this was ok. My daughter agreed upon this and had talked with us about if her dad, (nieces biological grampa) if he would go and walk around with them and maybe do some things with niece for a 1/2 hour to 1 hour at the fair so she could spend time with her friend that had asked her to go to the fair. Mind you my daughter asked niece before they left house if it was ok that she spent a little while with her friend and niece was ok with it her knowing grampa was going to spend time with her alone. My daughter, neice, grampa all went to fair meet the friend, my daughter, niece, friend spent 2 hours with 8 yr old niece with going on rides, playing games, seeing animals, ect.  Grampa, then took 8 yr old grandaughter to get ice-cream on a farm with animals and she was aloud to pet and ride ponies. Everything was fine until next day when we took niece home did she elaborate on this with her mom and started crying to mom that my daughter left her with grampa and didn’t take her on any rides, play any games, ect. Granted this was all false statements comming out of the mouth of this 8 yr old and the mother came unglued with my daughter . Lashing out many false statements to her and parenting her on how wrong she was doing this, how niece was a guest in our home and my daughter had no reason for doing this to her daughter(niece.) Ex-daughter-in -Law also stated to us the kids were not ever comming over again ect. We don’t and can’t treat guest right, ect. DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA, I am at my wits end with this lady. It is like she has this hold over us to keep children away. What rights do grandparents and Aunts have? Nothing I am aware of…..