Chinese daughter-in-law

November 23, 2009 at 1:45 pm in Family & Relationships by GildaNY

I am thrilled that my son has found his love – a beautiful and brilliant young woman originally from Shanghai.  They both hold down very good jobs and are successful at what they do.  My only concern is that she doesn’t seem to have much interest in any family visits with us, other than a very occasional dinner out when we visit their city (a 3 hour drive from our home).  She is an only child, her parents are divorced and her mother lives in another state.  Since their marriage this summer (which we did not attend, because they decided to get married at the courthouse, and only two friends were invited), we have seen them together just once.  I mentioned to my son that maybe in a few years they would consider going to Hawaii with us.  He ran it past his wife, and she said she thought it would be fine for him to go with us.  This Thanksgiving our son is coming home to visit, and his new wife is flying to another state to visit a friend.  I am trying not to feel rejected, and to be understanding.  Any suggestions?

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