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3 years ago
I am so attracted to my husband, but I can't seem to get motivated to have sex with him....
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2 years ago
Make a date in the future. A few days or so. Tell him u want it to be special. Make the area safe from anyone knocking, put on the works, music, candle. The expectation really helps.
Ritter Janet, I hope things have improved for you since you posted a year and a half ago. Were you able to get to the root of your ambivalence? I was a bit saddened to read other posts predicting you would be headed for divorce if things didn’t get resolved. I am all for keeping our partners satisfied sexually. However, life brings challenges and changes that can take time to adjust to. Hopefully there’s enough depth in the relationship to overcome any obstacles that occur. Best of luck!
I don’t see this solely as a matter of motivation. For me, sometimes I have to “act as if” I want to have sex, and then just do it. 100% of the time I am glad that I did. It is always satisfying, and even if it weren’t, it sure makes my husband feel loved. That’s so important, especially at our ages.
Dr. Barb DePree
I recently put up a post that relates to this topic. See if this is helpful. http://www.vibrantnation.com/our-blog-circle/middlesexmd/emotional-connection-and-other-ways-women-are-not-men/
I’ve been watching this post for a couple of days now. . . I only have one thing to say……………if you don’t someone else will.
Lots of divorces out there, and you may join the ranks.
Wow! I definitely don’t have that problem….but my 40 something husband says he does. Must be hormonal.
Try reading “Passion Play”. If possible, you and your husband should read it together and talk about new things to try. Good luck. I also plan to ask my GYN about testosterone cream, as suggested above.
4 years ago
Gosh seems to me this should go hand in hand. I would see your doctor and tell them what’s going on. Could be hormone levels. Menopause on the horizon? Through it already? There’s a lot of possibilities.