Menopause symptoms are nature's way of signaling the end of a woman's reproductive years. But sometimes the symptoms cause the end of her the sexual years. During menopause, the vagina's mucous membranes thin and the walls of the vagina lose their elasticity. This results in the very uncomfortable sensation of female dryness, both external to the vagina and internal. Female dryness can cause bleeding during sex and extreme pain if the lining of the vagina becomes inflamed.
Try some of the following suggestions from Power-Surge to help ease female dryness:
- Add some oil to your diet. Doing something as simple as swallowing one tablespoon of oil (canola, olive, sunflower, soybean) daily can add lubrication to your body.
- You can insert a vitamin E capsule vaginally for lubrication to ease the pain caused by female dryness. You don't even have to break open the capsule; just insert and your vagina will dissolve it for you. You may want to do this at least 30 minutes before though. It's one of the least expensive and most natural ways of treating vaginal dryness. If you find yourself in the heat of the moment you can also cut open the capsule and place the vitamin E oil in the palm of your hand, then put some on your finger or your partners and insert it into your vagina.
- When experiencing female dryness always lubricate yourself before having intercourse. You can try products such as Replens, as well as other lubricating products such as Astroglide and the old standby, K-Y Jelly. You can also go a more natural route and use coconut oil and other fruit and vegetable oils such as almond oil or olive oil as lubricants.
- Aloe vera/slippery elm paste is often used to soothe and lubricate an inflamed, dry vagina. Mix enough slippery elm powder into some aloe vera gel to form a thick paste. Apply inside the lips and up into the vagina. It will feel very cool and soothing.
Another natural lubricant is saliva.
- Remember, a menopausal woman's ability to lubricate is not totally gone, it just takes longer and requires more foreplay. Manual stimulation works fine, but oral stimulation works better and faster. The stimulation can take awhile, but if a woman needs longer to become lubricated, remember she will also get aroused during that time and her clitoris erect for orgasm.
How to lubricate yourself with various oils and lubricants
Put enough product, about the size of a nickel, on the tip of the index finger. Start by spreading both the inner and outer lips of the vulva with the finger, lubricating as you go. If there is any tissue sticking together, gently rub the finger with the lube in the center of the two lips while pulling back on the outermost lip at the same time. Make certain sure the area between inner and outer lips and between the inner lips is lubed. Then, starting at the vaginal opening make a circular upward spiraling inside the vagina. Also, instead of or addition to the vaginal application, grease the penis. Reapply whenever needed.
As you age, it helps to think of sex beyond penile-vaginal intercourse. Try to define sex differently. Though some feel sex is anything designed to bring a man or woman to orgasm, many women can have satisfying sex without always experiencing orgasm. Oral or manual stimulation need not be thought of as only a means to lubricate for genital intercourse. It can also be the way to an orgasm by itself. Tr out new things. Most partners will appreciate new experiences and your broadening of the definition of sex.