One of the perks of writing a blog is the first rule from Blog School, okay there is no actual blog school, it would be more of what would be called advice from people. People who know either a lot more about blogging than I or the other people who no less about blogging than I. Both groups, however, offer the same advice, read other blogs and make intelligent and clever comments. Do not appear to be making those comments to further your own blog.
I, who am nothing, if not a rule follower, took that advice to heart and have been visiting other blogs. Much to my surprise I am having so much fun reading all manner of things for baby boomers and making pithy (thank you, Bill O’Reilly), comments that I barely have time for my own blog!
One such blog was discussing getting back into the dating pool, she was feeling down and unattractive and wanted some input. I’ve been married for thirty-five years, so I decided just to throw in some off hand advice suggesting she should begin to wear really beautiful underwear. I have been shocked by the number of people who have commented on my comment! Most of whom were in total agreement.
My theory is that, when you have on gorgeous, sexy underwear that matches your clothes you just feel better about yourself. Perhaps, it’s from when my own Mother, and it would seem every other young girls’, Mother, told us to make sure our underwear matched in case we had an accident. Whatever the reason for imparting that wisdom, it seems to have stuck with me and I am a devotee of lacy, delicate underwear in every known color. You can bet if I am ever involved in drive by shooting, the police and emergency room doctors will be talking about me for years to come.
I am guessing I can’t be far off the mark because whenever my husband sees me getting dressed, his first question is always,” exactly who is going to be seeing you in a navy blue bra and panties”, so someone is paying attention. My point is really that somehow just having it on makes me stand up straighter and feel just a little prettier when I take on the world every day! I think that is really important as we get older and want very much to feel connected to this fast paced world we inhabit. I am a staunch believer in when you look and feel your best, you are at your best and people will just naturally gravitate to you.
So, whether you are widowed or divorced or happily married, to grow old gracefully we need to be engaged in the world around us and that means actually speaking with and listening to people of all ages and persuasions and enjoying the conversations. To do that we have to feel confident, not just in how we look, but in our ability to really be in the moment where ever your day takes you.
Don’t dismiss my underwear theory as just another shallow idea, but give some thought to what things in your life make you feel confident and ALIVE. It is that feeling that will open you up to new interests and experience which in turn, will open up your life in ways you can’t even imagine.
I agree with you both totally, but thought this might be a good issue to raise here. I myself wouldn't go with a TV ad unless I knew it was exceptional medical practice. I think again it is so good Robbie that you have raised this issue and educa
Hi Darcy
I always appreciate your comments. Emasculating a man means not letting him have his DNA role of being a man. It happens when we take control and literally want to wear the pants versus letting him.
It's very hard for Boomer women to
Business does not dismiss your theory at all! Lingerie is big business. My company, Haralee.Com sells sexy and comfortable and functional sleepwear that looks cool and keeps you cool!
Just in time for Father’s Day, have you seen the guys wearing their underwear?
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Your welcome!
Woohoo! Sounds great to me!
I completely agree on wearing pretty underwear! Just make sure it is comfortable as well. My husband of 25 years is the only one who sees them but he definitely notices. And most importantly, it makes me feel good too.
Great advise. I’m part way there. Any recommendations? I’ve been having a hard time finding comfortable, supportive bras that fit. I’ve been fitted but have not found the gem of gems. Thanks!
When I was in the Army I always wore sexy underwear, always. If I’m in a funk a pretty pair of undies can perk me right up.
Beautiful underwear may be just for you or your partner, but I feel better knowing I am not wearing baggy bottoms in orthopaedic beige….
I agree. Sexy underwear always brightens up a day.
Sexy underwear is the best way to brighten up a day. I was a bus driver for 18 years and I had to wear a ugly uniform but under it I wore the sexiest underwear I could find. I thought was if I had to dress in ugly clothes at lest I felt beautiful underneath. I had no man but my sisters would laugh and ask why, I told them if I got into an crash at lest the men in the hospital would like want I was wearing. lol
At age 64, I was holding this lacy, sexy demi bra and trying to decide if I should get it. Thinking nobody other than me would ever see it. I expressed that to the young woman clerk and she said, “but you’ll know you have it on.” Sounds so simple, but it was staggering to me at the time. You know I bought it and it started a trend for me.
My other story is about buying underwear. I had pulled black lacy panties off the rack and was holding them up to look at them, when I noticed this older man of apparent Greek descent, futher down the aisle watching me. Suddenly he nodded his head and gave me a gigantic grin. I was absolutely mortified, but bought them.