One of the perks of writing a blog is the first rule from Blog School, okay there is no actual blog school, it would be more of what would be called advice from people. People who know either a lot more about blogging than I or the other people who no less about blogging than I. Both groups, however, offer the same advice, read other blogs and make intelligent and clever comments. Do not appear to be making those comments to further your own blog.
I, who am nothing, if not a rule follower, took that advice to heart and have been visiting other blogs. Much to my surprise I am having so much fun reading all manner of things for baby boomers and making pithy (thank you, Bill O’Reilly), comments that I barely have time for my own blog!
One such blog was discussing getting back into the dating pool, she was feeling down and unattractive and wanted some input. I’ve been married for thirty-five years, so I decided just to throw in some off hand advice suggesting she should begin to wear really beautiful underwear. I have been shocked by the number of people who have commented on my comment! Most of whom were in total agreement.
My theory is that, when you have on gorgeous, sexy underwear that matches your clothes you just feel better about yourself. Perhaps, it’s from when my own Mother, and it would seem every other young girls’, Mother, told us to make sure our underwear matched in case we had an accident. Whatever the reason for imparting that wisdom, it seems to have stuck with me and I am a devotee of lacy, delicate underwear in every known color. You can bet if I am ever involved in drive by shooting, the police and emergency room doctors will be talking about me for years to come.
I am guessing I can’t be far off the mark because whenever my husband sees me getting dressed, his first question is always,” exactly who is going to be seeing you in a navy blue bra and panties”, so someone is paying attention. My point is really that somehow just having it on makes me stand up straighter and feel just a little prettier when I take on the world every day! I think that is really important as we get older and want very much to feel connected to this fast paced world we inhabit. I am a staunch believer in when you look and feel your best, you are at your best and people will just naturally gravitate to you.
So, whether you are widowed or divorced or happily married, to grow old gracefully we need to be engaged in the world around us and that means actually speaking with and listening to people of all ages and persuasions and enjoying the conversations. To do that we have to feel confident, not just in how we look, but in our ability to really be in the moment where ever your day takes you.
Don’t dismiss my underwear theory as just another shallow idea, but give some thought to what things in your life make you feel confident and ALIVE. It is that feeling that will open you up to new interests and experience which in turn, will open up your life in ways you can’t even imagine.