QUOTE:
“There can be no deep disappointment where there is not deep love.”
-Martin Luther King, Jr.
INSPIRATION:
No truer words spoken than in a marriage gone bad, if you did not love this person deeply then the hurt would not be as great or the betrayal as devastating. The good news is the deeper the hurt the greater the comeback. Another good thing is to know that you have the capacity for deep connection with someone. Every negative has a positive that is only waiting to be explored. We usually only dwell on one aspect either the good or the bad. Until we can realize that in every situation that occurs in our lives there is a good side, just waiting to be discovered.
ACTION:
What right now can you only see the negative side? Take some time today and brainstorm some ideas how this can actually be a good thing in your life. Don’t stop until you can write at least one thing. There is healing when you learn to balance the good with the bad.
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I've wondered about these. I hate struggling with hoses, and as an avid gardener it's a given I have to.
I agree. Acknowledging the good with the bad is using emotional intelligence. My divorce after 20+ years of marriage was painful, but I did not feel remorse because ending it was the right thing to do for both of us. We deserved to be good to ourselves. My ex has since remarried, but I have not. The end of a rebound relationship that lasted for 7 years following the divorce was even more painful. But, that too, was rational (for me) and serves as testament to my inner strengths at age 55, having raised two extraordinary young women from infancy and seeing my life flower in midlife. While being alone is not ideal in every circumstance, being free to make choices without needing to confer and compromise is fabulous.