I have always been so self confident and self assured. But, after the age of 50 I began questioning myself. Each negative experience I had, I personalized it, beat myself up. I don’t understand why this is happening. Does anyone else out there experience this to? Is it menopausal or just mind games we play with ourselves?
What do you do to make changes you feel need to be made? They say if we want to find love, we need to love ourselves first.
I think I have been a bit depressed, and am trying to get myself out of the funk, medication free.
Your words of wisdom welcome…
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The toughest part for me, as an adult who has put my difficult childhood behind me, is dealing with family members who are in denial about anything being amiss about how we were raised and the impact this has had on our on-going relationships.
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ReginaLove, that is SO great to hear! As for soy, it may help with menopause symptoms -- it it controversial. The best way to use soy is in the form of whole fermented soy foods (miso, tempeh, tamari and natto). Non-fermented soy foods such as soy mi
Agreed. I never thought I was vain until I had a mastectomy at age 39. I was devastated and told the doc I wanted to wake up with implants. Now at age 60, I am lopsided and wondering if I was just avoiding the inevitable. You get what you get and you
Sounds very interesting.
Hi birdlover,
Sorry to hear about your downer mood. I have been through a clinical depression in the past, so I will share with you what I learned from that exprerience in hopes that some of it may be helpful to you. First of all, get yourself medically checked out…..the works. Many medical conditions can affect mood. Obviously menopause is one, but there’s also anemia and thyroid problems just to name a couple. (I’m not a medical professional, nor do I pretend to have expetensive medical knowledge, just my personal experience). Look into seeing a counselor. Someone that can help you take an objective look at your life situation. The 50′s are a complicated time in a woman’s life: empty nest, aging parents, looming retirement, menopause, well, you get the idea. Also, I would recemmend reading uplifting literature such as The Four Agreements, Sex and the Seasoned Woman, or something in a field you enjoy.
Being on VN is a good thing. The women here are very supportive. And you will find that many are going through the same experience.
As to the medications, like I said, I am not a medical professional. In my own personal experience, I wish I had waited before I took medications, but then again, that’s hindsight. Not only was I in a major life stressor at the time, but I have a genetic predisposition to depression, so, I don’t know. If you do decide to consider medications, I would recommend that you go to a psychiatrist and not a general practitioner. Psychiatrists are the experts in these types of medications. In fact, if you have a medical school nearby, that would be the best. Schools are into the latest treatments and innovations and have the latest research.
Good luck to you. Keep me posted!
Hi Olga,
Thanks for your reply. Being spending time outdoors and started on some herbs, doing better. Thanks for you comments, it helped a lot… Nice to know we have VN, it has been a saving grace for me… Bless you…