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The Ten Most Desirable Qualities In A Significant Other (When you are over 50) Hot Conversation

The Ten Most Desirable Qualities In A Significant Other (When you are over 50)

 

1. A good sense of humor. 

2. A deep appreciation for anything made before 1960.

3. A great imagination.

4. The ability to overlook things that just aren’t that important.

5. Passion for your partner and for life!

6. A positive attitude.

7. A tolerance for other’s opinions.

8. A touch of wanderlust. 

9. An understanding of what the words loyalty and trust mean.

10. The attitude that life is far from over!

 

 VN Sisters…What would YOU add to this list? 

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30 Responses

  1. Generic Image Stevie says

    The willingness to do what is required when times get tough.

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  2. She Cat She Cat says

    Hair, teeth and a job wouldn’t hurt either….

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  3. Sunblossom Sunblossom says

    A good conversationalist, not only with me, but with others….conversation meaning we both listen and hear each other…..I love a great conversation/debate…

    Also a vision that there is a lot more world out there than within our four walls….an appreciation for being part of something bigger….

    Generosity.

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  4. Dallas Lady Dallas Lady says

    Baggage control.

    Over 50, we all enter relationships with the ghosts of relationships pasts, kids, grandkids, parents, exes, former inlaws, etc. Key in a successful new relationship at this stage of life : A healthy, constructive balance where the SOs mutual needs are met, but one SO doesn’t interfere , stop, or attempt to insert self into fray of the others SO lifetime accumulations. Be together as partners, but keep your distance from your SOs baggage. Let your new partner deal with controlling their baggage!

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  5. dragonfly dragonfly says

    well, you certainly covered it well.  i like “sense of humor” at the top of the list for sure.  my hubby of 36 years still makes me laugh several times every day.  â¤ ❤ ❤ 

    the other things that are also very important are:  

    Honest and loving communication  (i guess that could actually be your “loyalty and trust”)

    Saying we love each other every day 

    Always kiss goodnight

    Gives me foot/head massages daily

    Always has my back

    Learns new things with me

    Travel together

    Regularly read new books

    Takes a walk every day with me

    Always peels my orange for me

    Always picks out the cashews and gives them to me (yes, he likes them too but always gives them up – unsolicited by me)

    Waits on me hand and foot if i’m ever sick  (once for two months straight due to surgery!)

     

    I just realized i’m actually married to a saint!  Is it any wonder why i still let him hang with me all these years?  lol   God forbid something should ever happen cause it would be impossible to replace him for sure!  I’d be replaced in a heartbeat tho i’m afraid as my gf’s all want him!  

    We definitely still have passion for each other!  

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    • Debi Drecksler Debi Drecksler says

      I LOVED your entire list! THANK-YOU!!

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      • Alicia Alicia says

        Right now I just need a guy who loves sex and has so much  money, he can’t remember where it all is….and he wants me to have ALL of it.

         

        I am pretty basic, LOL, LOL

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      • Alma Alma says

        Alicia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Finding the one to have sex with is easy because the minute you meet them that seems to be all they have on their mind.  Even at 50ish.  Now the money thing, you just might have to compromise on that.  Then if he does have the money, what strings may be attached you gotta ask yourself.

         

         

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      • Alicia Alicia says

        Alma!!!!!!!  Yes, I know that after being on a dating (Plenty of Fish…..I call Plenty of Carp, LOL) site for 5 years; these men don’t have the intelligence of a box of rocks…….I despair of ever meeting a man of integrity, etc., etc…

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      • ThurmanLady ThurmanLady says

        I just met one on POF who is wonderful! ♥

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      • Alma Alma says

        I did not save your phone number I can’t call you.  I feel bad. If you still have mine will you give me a ring please.  Gotta make you laugh about my last episode with Mr. Wrong.

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      • Debi Drecksler Debi Drecksler says

        You are SO funny!!!

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    • Alma Alma says

      Dang you are the envy of the site.  I wish for a few of these characteristics in a man and find only a very few or if he does have them like the one I was with for 3 years who turned abusive.  Gosh this is certainly not too much to ask for.  You are blessed indeed.

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      • dragonfly dragonfly says

        lol….and i didn’t even go into all the REALLY good stuff about him cause i didn’t want my VN sisters here to hate me.

        i will say tho that i agree that i am blessed indeed and never try to take it for granted.  I grew up with an alcoholic father who abandoned us, was sexually abused by my stepfather and my first short marriage I was cheated on and physically abused.  This man came along and married me and adopted my baby girl and has always been faithful to our marriage.  I don’t know what i did to deserve him but I feel like he probably saved my life given the low self-esteem i had.  

        but i wish i could clone him and give one to you and all the other wonderful and deserving single ladies here!  

         

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      • Alma Alma says

        How I pray that this will happen to me.  With all that I have been through I deserve to have someone appreciate me and treat me like the queen that I am.  There is a little girl locked inside of me that has yet to be loved.  I look at my reflections in the window and the mirror and I see her. I feel that for some reason it was not meant to be, that I was put on this earth to be misused and mistreated. Now that may not make sense to many but to me because that is all I have known, that is what I have come to believe. 

        A knight in shining armour is what you have and believe me either they don’t exist anymore or they are hiding. I was told and I beleive it to be true, that the good men stay at home because they are tired of running into the no good women.  Yep they do exist.  I feel this is true because I know me and I know that I am a wonderful person so rather than to be bothered with the garbage floating around out there I stay at home. 

        I would be so interested in knowing how you all met.  God bless you and may you always be happy.

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    • ThurmanLady ThurmanLady says

      Definitely a keeper! ♥

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      • dragonfly dragonfly says

        good luck to you on your catch at POF!  please keep us posted.  

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      • ThurmanLady ThurmanLady says

        Dragonfly, I’ll let you know that we’re in ‘serious like’ with each other! ♥♥

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  6. Alma Alma says

    If I were to add to this list I would do so because of a recent encounter I just had with a man.  Quality #1, 2, 3, 4, 5, – 10 – Whento speak vs. when not to speak.  A touch of knowing how to keep your mouth closed about your last affair.  I don’t want to know what went on in the bedroom with a man and his last woman.  PERIOD!

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    • dragonfly dragonfly says

      that’s just weird.  but at least you learned right off the bat you’d picked up a snake and threw it down before it could bite!  

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  7. Generic Image Noratata says

    I love this, how true.

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  8. pinkpoodle pinkpoodle says

    I love this post. I truely believe that your attitude is your life.

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  9. Sophiefierce Sophiefierce says

    I just stumbled on this blog and love the answers but there is one I would definitely put at or near the top of the list.  He MUST have self-confidence – that is soooo sexy – at least to me.  Not in a cocky or arrogant way but he must know who he is and be comfortable in his own skin.  People (women friends as well) who have this quality are so much easier to be around.

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