I have been married 27 years and have a wonderful home that I have worked hard to build and a wonderful family – 3 grown kids. One of the things I enjoy most is having our kids visit for dinner or just an afternoon visiting. The problem – my husband shows no affection and doesn’t seem to even want to communicate with me. He hasn’t kissed me (other than on the forehead whe going out the door) in years. We haven’t had sex in years. I can’t even get him to have a meaningful conversation. I am very outgoing and goal oriented. I like to do things, plan things .. feel alive.
I am losing my sense of worth and self confidence. Others seem to really enjoy my company, think I’m pretty, intelligent, vibrant and outgoing … a catch .. but I can’t even get my husband to give me a hug.
I have discussed this with him for years but nothing seems to change. Even went to a world renowned marriage counsellor last year for a few days intensive. The change lasted a couple of weeks but here I am again .. lonlier than ever.
It is so lonely being married to someone who doesn’t hug, kiss or show any affection…who doesn’t want to have a meaningful conversation or plan things together.
Is there any hope or am I just hanging on to something that will not change and will have regrets down the road.
Is there anyone out there who has gone through something similar? What are your recommendations?