I have been seeing my SO for about 6yrs. now. We get along most of the time however he has difficulty controlling his temper. He fights dirty. I feel he has unresolved issues which stem from his upbringing because when we fight he comes out with things that have nothing to do with what we’re arguing about. The part I find most painful is not having my feelings validated by him. He will misintrepret them as me attacking or blaming him. In other words, when I try to explain my feelings he tells me I’m justifying myself to make it look like it’s all his fault. We have been going to counseling for about 1yr. now about once a month. At times there is progress at other times not. The therapist says it will take time and practice to make any positive changes. Other than that this person is a good individual, very caring, helpful, affectionate, etc. It’s just that the fighting part is starting to affect me. Has anyone ever experienced a situation like this and if so what was the outcome? Thanks
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July 29, 2010
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please read all you can on “Emotional Abuse”.
Ditto-emotional abuse. You deserve to be happy.
I agree wirh Namaste. There is a lack of respect. You deserve better.
Yes, I have lived an experience just like what you have explained with my ex-husband. You could not pay me any amount of money to live through it again. These type of men are experts at turning everything back on you. It is very hard to put into words how they do it, but it is like your words come back at you like a loose whirling circular saw blade, ripping and cutting your heart and soul to pieces. After each fight, you feel worse than the last one. You end up laying on the couch crying your eyes out and your gut feels like it has been pulled out of your body and stomped on. Life is short girl and you shouldn’t have to live in misery. Get out there and find some fun and happiness. Best wishes to you Sweetheart.
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I agree with the ladies but I will add one thing..IF he really wants to work things out…IF you want to work things out…then you will BOTH live by one saying my wonderful husband and I do…”When life & Satan rage againt us, we will rage against the world and Satan..NOT each other.”