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My family

First of all, this month the 15th will be the 5 year anniversary of my then 33 year old son. I have for MANY years had hot-cold relationship with my youngest daughter. It is the middle child daughter that has brought my husband and I through the fires of hell. She is 37 divorced 3 times and has for the past 2 years lived with us. She is bossy ans=d I have retreated to my room. (our house is not big enough) she has 4 kids 17, 24,==14,12,10. They have either lived near or with us (my hubby and me) for her whole life. The other day I again said something she did not like. My hubby said I could say anything I want this is my home and if anyone doesn’t like it than they can leave. They of course leaving. She is 37 uneducated past high school. she home schools her kids. She pays us a stipend to stay here. From child support. The money she pays us won’t pay for a house, car, insurance, telephone, television electricity. She makes too much for welfare and not enough to live on. I am feeling crushed that they are leaving. My grand kids have either lived with us or near us for their whole lives. I will miss them so much. She is blaming me. Her father finally stuck up for me for which I am thankful. but I’m am feeling twitterpated in my head about this. My girls have No idea how much I love them or maybe they are feeling smothered. whatever the case this daughter is vindictive enough to turn her own kids against me. Not her DAD  My sadness is profound help

 

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  1. Generic Image Belinda Berg says

    I moved in with Mom and Dad when I was 35.  Eventually it came down to-this is my house and when you live under my roof you do as I say-whether you are 35 or 3.5.  And she was right.  I moved out but I regret that now.  I should have stayed and went to school like I had planned. And shut my mouth! LOL.  But I survived and thrived anyway–I paddled my own canoe and may be that was best after all.  Who knows for sure?  I just did the best I could to make Mom know I loved her immensely (before she died).

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    • Generic Image nanaof10 says

      Thank you Belinda for your response. Sometimes it takes an outside resource to help you.

      I have since the post here sort of figured out the real problem. Lack of communication. First there were no guidelines. Thus no privacy for any of us. The 4 kids often have their friends over and for sleepovers and etc. I have be walked in on in my bedroom not fully dressed by their friend and them  because the friends don’t knock. and sometimes the youngest 2 have their clothes in the dressers in my husband and my bedroom. so in the am there is in and out the door left open  well you get the picture.

      The 3 Adults were able to talk about the situation and have set up some guidelines, thou the lack of space hasn’t changed there is more respect for me and my needs. As well as the others needs. There is still a slight problem with all the friends over…FOOD and DRINK  But we all agree that the kids are better off at our home supervised. It has never been our rule or you’re out

      But the roles unfortunately get askewed. The good news is it is getting better every day

      Thank you again

      BTW i misspoke in the initial post she is 37 divorced 2x’s  kids are 17 14 12 10.

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