Nine years ago, my oldest daughter married my best friend’s son. I had seen the attitude of the men in the family but hoped my son-in-law wouldn’t follow in their footsteps. The men all live their own lives and leave the women to handle the kids, home, etc. My daughter has lived with the Sunday home football games, the race track, the casino and a number of other activities that the “family men” participate in. He doesn’t pay attention to the kids and now that they are separated, doesn’t seem to have any time for the kids. He is always “working” or going bowling. She is at the end of her rope and now the kids are being left out of family events, such as a recent Halloween party. Pictures were posted on facebook of the party with her husband there and her mother-in-law, my best friend. This has upset her very much that the kids aren’t being considered in family events. I think that my friend should have as least thought to have them be invited since it was only a family event. My daughter is upset with the fact that they think she is the blame of this whole separation whereas she just got fed up with taking care of a husband who didn’t care if he was involved in the family at all. She is the first to actually take a stand with putting up with the men’s “time out”. I want to be supportive but I am really upset with my friend as well. Am I wrong to feel this way and I wonder if I will be able to get past this and have our friendship untarnished. What can I do? I try to not bring up the subject with my friend but she talks about it all the time. I feel our relationship changing as we speak. Comments invited. Thanks
|My Daughter is getting divorced|
November 01, 2012
Posted in family & relationships.