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My heart is breaking, I have to put my little 10 year old dog down. Why do we do this?
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I’m so sorry that you are faced with this decision. It’s a hard one to have to make. I feel that when an animal is sick, when they are in pain, and there is no more hope left, that making the decision to put them down is a humane one, and shows love…..
They can’t tell us when they hurt, where they hurt, or how much pain that they are in…We have to base our decisions on our love, and kindness that we show them.
I do not want to live a life full of pain, or be faced with something that is incurable. I would rather die with dignity, my own way than to linger. But, as humans we can make those decisions. Our pets can’t….
I’m so sorry that you are hurting…..
Oh my, I iwish I could be there to give you a big warm hug. Ask everyone around for one, it helps.
A year ago last May we had to put our wonderful dog down & I have to tell you, there are moments, without warning that I still mourn for her. Although there was no question we had to call the vet (we found out she had cancer, but she was doing fine, but only 10 days later she couldn’t get up, which is what the vet had warned us would happen) & there was no way I was ever going to ‘keep her alive’ without her dignity, her death was extremely hard on our whole family, but me especially…she was always at my side. 4 months of crying followed in waves. We had her cremated & her ashes & some mementos are in a special little chest in our home. There are times that I still talk to her & (a secret…) I still say goodnight to her every night.
Anyways, those are things that helped me through. But you know, what I always believed & helped me understand, is that animals are so much highly instictive, I really believe that they are not afraid to die like we are. Every species of animal has their own way of bringing on death, they just accept it. That’s why I wouldn’t allow Molly to be sick.
We did get another dog, not exactly like her, I didn’t want to feel that we were replacing her, & I managed to wait 6 months. I wanted for the time to be right that I made a clear choice that I wasn’t looking for another Molly, but instead another dog. I do wish now that I had waited another 6 months. Quinn is a nice dog, but the puppy stage blindsided me!
Just feel it & be nice to yourself. Warm regards.
In the past 10 years I have lost 3 dogs. The most recent died one year ago. His name was Dodger and he was a 10 yr old Cairn Terrier. I still miss all of them. The first two weeks after a pet passes is the hardest. You have to adjust to them not greeting you when you come home and all the other things you were used to doing on a daily basis. You think you will not survive the grief but you will. It does get easier. Allow yourself to grieve. When the time was right I adopted a black lab from Labrador Rescue of FL. He is wonderful and I love him so much. I know some day I will have to go through the process all over again but the joy he brings me makes it all worth while. My thoughts are with you.
I’m really so sorry for you. We’ve done it twice with dogs & it’s just the hardest thing to do. Hugs to you….K ;-(
Because of the love they give us and because of how we nurture and love back. So, so sorry for your loss. In time, you may want another. A new pet won’t replace your little friend in your heart. It will make a whole new place. Give yourself time to grieve. Arms around you.
oh noooooooo! I did that recently with my beloved Whitey. My husband cried so hard over the phone that i fell so sad for him. It was his baby. Mine too but he just cuddled and loved that little fuzz ball. I always get another pet right away. You will not believe how much that helps. I had two more at home, different breeds but love them just as much. Don’t let the pain keep you from getting another pet. 10 years of happiness is a lot of smiles.
I am sending hugs your way. I just want to say I am so sorry for the loss of your precious pet. Wishing you sunny days and that each one gets easier. You will know when the time is right to get another pet. Blessings
I’m so sorry lenny. I cry just thinking that I might have to do this one day. I’m here for you if you need someone to talk with.
Oh lenny, this is so hard. You asked “why do we do this?” I don’t think you meant “Why do we put our pets down”, although I don’t know for sure. I’m feeling like you were asking why we put ourselves through this, knowing when we get a pet that this day will come far too soon.
I can’t answer either question, but if you were literally asking why we put our pets down…. We do that because we love them, and because it’s what they need us to do for them. If you don’t get a puppy to help ease your pain, please make sure you talk to somebody every time a thought of your sweet dog pops into your head. My husband and I did that, and it helped both of us SO much.
If you don’t have a husband to do that with, lenny – then post here on VN. We’ll listen and we’ll care. (((Hugs)))
Lenny, My deepest sympathy on the tough decision to put your beloved dog to rest. What Duffy says is so true; we do this horrible thing because we love our pets so much. Would that we could be so kind to the much loved humans in our lives who are also suffering when there is no longer any hope for getting better. I have lost so many pets over the years but I remember them all with affection. Each of my pets has brought me joy in a different way, although admittedly some are our particular “soulmates.” I used to ask my parents why we couldn’t be assigned a pet(s) at birth and then keep them with us throughout our lifetimes since it always hurts so badly when we lose them. And my wise Mom replied, “Would you have been willing to trade the joy of loving them in order to avoid the pain of having to lose them?” No, never. And that goes 1000 times more with you, Mom; thank you for reminding me.
Thank you all for your caring words. I buried my little friend today. The world is so quiet that I can hear my heart breaking. Time heals and I would not have traded loving him for all the world. Thank you, what a great bunch of women.
Kisses and hugs, lenny.
Lenny, my deepest sympathy on the sad loss of your beloved friend. I hope you can take just a little comfort in knowing that you did the kind, brave and most loving thing for your little guy. Do you know the story of the Rainbow Bridge about how we will meet all our beloved friends again one day? Even though I am not a religious or even particularly spiritual person, thinking of the Rainbow Bridge has always brought me a lot of comfort during such sad times. (Just google Rainbow Bridge if you don’t know the story; it’s all over the Internet. Also, there are a number of free pet loss chat rooms and bereavement support lines you can call which you might find helpful; the Rainbow Bridge search should take you to many of these.) Thinking of you with sympathy and sending you a hug for acting with such courage and compassion today.
Lenny, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. What you have done for your little loved one was the ultimate display of how very much you loved him. My husband and I have experienced your pain three times during our lifetime, and I personally still find it difficult to talk about them in the past tense because I feel and believe that they are still apart of me today. My heart goes out to you during this time. Take care and hugs…
I’m so sorry to read about the loss of your little dog.