DO IT! I supported my family mostly alone (if you exclude the disability benefits and workers compensation pittence) to a spouse that had no drive. Sure wasn’t that way when I met him. Now he has “found a doctor” that wrote that he can no longer work, yet he has the use of his arms, legs and brain to convince his lawyer to not charge him fees and prolong the divorce process so he stays on my insurance. Consider yourself lucky, all those of you who got unhooked far easier. I must pay spousal, and since ours was considered a long term marriage, I will pay until he marries or dies … neither which he is planning to do.
I ache for release.
So do my children who live with me and rarely speak with him. No, they chose to put distance in … I was always able to have them visit. They don’t respect him …
My lawyer is getting rich on an income that can no longer take any hits. Must I continue to be sapped by the leeches?? I am nearly at my wits end … and this started four 1/2 years ago.