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I’m a bit beyond 1 year as a widow, and think I’m ready to try dating. What internet dating/matchup/ meetup sites have you tried? What did you like/not like about the one(s) you tried? I’m 53, am I too old for this?
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I have tried them all; even millionaires dating sites. They are all the same…I am on Plenty of Fish…I call it Plenty of carp, LOL……..Age is no barrier for me in doing anything I want to; I am in school at age 63; I still perform (dance) and I still feel 18.
It seems these guys just want to play games. I have been at it for 5 years. Are you too old for what???
Remember your only trying to find one connection. I too, have been on many dating web sites including Plenty of Fish. I have met some great men and now one that truly makes me smile! One thing I will say, paying for a dating service does not mean better quality of men! Many sign up on more than one and you will see many of the same on paid/non paying sites.
Be smart, don’t lower your bar, and have fun.
Good advice….I had success on E-Harmony…
Thanks for writing. Do you like any one web site over another?
well I will put my two cents in. I have been on free dating sites since about 5 years..since then met a few that live not far but did not click..I met 2 men and went to visit them in middle east but nothing really came of it too far. As for the” no photo” alot of men I know do not post one and if they do they copy and paste from a modelling agency..it is not them..alot of scammers on all sites..don,t want to put you off but beware its really shark infested waters LOL
Thanks, Brit,
I went on seniorpeoplemeet.com, and got several responses from men far away professing their instant love based on my profile, one from Australia. I don’t get it. Why would someone so far away want to bother? how can you possible get to know a person without a chance to spend time together.
Most of the others seem either too old for me, or somehow odd, Am I just being to closed down? Should I give them a chance? It just doesn’t seem comfortable…..
So how do scammers operate? What would they be trying to get from me, other than a date?
I had ones similar to the ones you describe – just from your profile they have fallen in love with you. I thought they were looking for a way to get into Canada. I reported them to the site.
If you are not comfortable then listen to your inner voice. I had a friend who told me to be careful of the men who are looking for a ” NURSE WITH A PURSE”. I think that describes a lot of the older men. I had one guy tell me that his Dad told him widows make great 2nd or 3rd wives because they have probably had a successful marriage and they will “stick” by their man.
The thing that caught my eye with my guy – was that he made me laugh, and he was the only one who mentioned the passsing of my husband and expressed his condolences. Of all the responses I had received he was the only one that had even mentioned my husband.
Have you tried match.com? It does get frustrating I was ready to call it quits – but lucked out.
Lynn
Hi riverlady ….Maybe they think that you would never ask them to see them on Yahoo or Hotmail cam..this is the only way that you can be sure that the man is a man and not a woman..because I have so many email me and they have an excuse that their cam is broke or being fixed and this can go on for months with this excuse..but eventually they will come in for the kill, and somehow get around for to ask for money to meet you..lots of variations of this…but I think you get my drift…
Hi riverlady, I have been on and off dating sites for 1 1/2 years, have tried several including Match, POF, seniorpeoplemeet, and Chemistry. My favorite site and the one I’ve had the most luck with is Match. I’ve been fortunate to meet some very nice men, a couple guys whom I met early on I am still friends with, and I’m currently in a relationship with a great guy I met on Match. As others have said, please be careful of the scammers…after a while you’ll learn to recognize the “fake” profiles. It’s not without its frustration, but that’s a part of dating no matter how it happens. You do have to develop somewhat of a thick skin because a lot of men won’t respond at all to emails…one thing I promised myself was that I would reply to all emails (but not necessarily to “flirts”, “winks” etc). If someone takes the time to write to me I’ve always replied even if just to say “no thanks” and the guys seem to really appreciate a response. Good luck!
Thank you for your input…. I must have typed wrong, I’m 63, not 53. By “am I too old?” I meant that I seem to see mostly younger people on these sites, and when I look at profiles of men my age, they mostly post that they want younger women. What do you mean, “These guys want to play games”?
It doesn’t matter if your 53 or 63 – just go for it. It takes a lot to put yourself out there – but if you luck out like I did - it is well worth it.
My first date was a disaster – he was a retired teacher and taught and tested me all night – actually quizzed me on what he was going to have for dinner. I felt like I was back in public school. I was afraid that if I got the answer wrong he would have stood up and told everyone in restaurant what an idiot I was. The next morning I got an email from him asking me if I would be his last – first date. I couldn’t email NO back quick enough.
The only thing I would warn against is how desperate some of these guys seem.
Enjoy and have fun.
Lynn
met my new beau on SeniorPeopleMeet.com
havent seen many post from you lately… obviously the new beau thing is going well….congrats
ooooooh yeah! Thanks!!!! Talk about taking a leap of faith and putting yourself out here .. takes courage…or desperation…but wprth it.
i joined christianmingle.com all the guys i went out with were nice guys., all interested in relationships..just not my type. I felt like if one more guy sits here trying to prove to me how much he knows about the bible……and yes I’m a christian, but some how that was not the stimulting conversation I was looking for. two bits of advice. but your profile with no picture on multiple websites, read the bios and then you can decide which one to join that would be more successful in your area.. someone told me to try singlesnet.com??spelling??. Also, always meet in a public place the first time, and good advice I read here, DO NOT approach or respond to guys that dont have a picture..these are most likely the married guys. i had several send me a note asking me to send them a picture, I always responded with “sure, as soon as you post one”. Not a one of those replied..LOL.. and I have heard success and nonsuccess stories. No you are not too old. but you do need to have a sense of adventure and humor about the whole thing. On one website that I never posted a picture on or joined I got multiple hits from code name “hornytex”…OMG…are you kidding me?? I just laughed it off, one extreme to the other, guys preaching the bible at me and mr horny…. good luck
I am also 53, I became a widow last January and this past March I decided I would try the internet world of dating. I signed up for eHarmony – which I didn’t find succesful at all. I also signed up for Match.com and in May I started to communicate with a wonderful man. We met finally in June and everything just meshed, and that first kiss – wow. We see each other as often as we can, we both have children and baggage but we can both see this becoming something. So my word of advice – GO FOR IT.
Lynn
Love, love. love it…best of luck!
I’ve just started dipping my toes in the dating pool, too, and I like Match and OKCupid the best.
It depends also on whether you live in a densely populated area — I don’t. I found that many of the dating sites (I tried a bunch for a couple of months and then canceled all but Match and OKC) just didn’t have many men in my age range close to my town.