I have a “friend” who lives in another state. She has said and done some things that make me think I should just stop talking to her.
I’m a singer and so is she. I took time off from singing but I picked it up again a few years ago. I again began to study voice and music theory. I found out she has never studied ever. I didn’t know it and I innocently asked her a very simple question about a piece of sheet music. She became very defensive saying things like “I don’t know and I think I need to bone up on my music theory!” I then saw that she had no music theory training at all. I was not asking to make her feel badly about herself. I honestly thought she knew the answer to the question. She has also said things like “I’m acting like a 20 year old: and “I’m going through a midlife crisis.” She also visits the city where I live and where we met without giving me any notice she is in town, or calling me to say she will be in town. Her mother died and she did not tell me where the funeral was being held. Her daughter got married and the wedding was being held in another state. She invited me two weeks before the wedding! They sent me announcement after the wedding!
It seems pretty obvious that this person is not someone I should concern myself with but she occasionally calls to chat. And she wants to talk for a long time.
Why bother to call when she acts the way she does? What has finished this situation in my eyes is seeing a Facebook posting of her being in NYC last month saying she was having a good time. I just spoke to her last night and she did not mention it. I left a posting saying “Nice you came to visit NYC. Hope you had a good time”. Now she is calling me and I’m not taking the calls.
I know this is probably really petty but I just had to get this out. I may even “unfriend” her on Facebook.
Why do people, particularly women, treat each other in such a strange way? I am so done.