Hi ladies ,
I have been a bit distracted from my Vibrant feeds. My handicapped daughter landed in the hospital Dec 15 for ten days and then another month in a nursing home and I have sort of been distracted as you can imagine . She is home now and much improved but she darn near died on me .
She has lymphodema and also is obese . Plus with that , she has sleep apnea and many more serious health issues . Plus I am sure she has Asperger syndrom or whatever they are calling it today . Its a part of autisim that was not even mentioned in medical circles 37 years ago when my daughter was born . I have had to find this online myself but I would wager money on it . It doesnt do me any good though because since she is an adult , no professional will go out on a limb to diagnose her . Plus she is on SSI and most psychiatrists and Psychologists will not take her insurance . This has been a very difficult seven weeks . She was on high potency anitbiotics because with the lymphedema , sleeping sitting in a chair and her weight , she managed to come down with a mirade of problem , mainly open wounds , the worst from her undies cutting into her stomach and making the worst looking open wounds you can imagine. Since her tummy is so low , you could only see this by bending over and peering between her legs . Lordy be , I got her to the dr and then directly into the hosptial as fast as I could . She never felt sick , or hurt , or anything remotely causing me to suspect she was ill. Luckily she responded well to the drugs and has made an amazing recovery and lost a total of 43 lbs and is still losing . I am so thankful . She is a pain in the butt in many ways but I love her and I really missed her when she was away for so long .
On top of this , our 11 year old weimaraner , Comet , was diagnosed with diabetis the last week she was in the nursing home . Hes her buddy and by gosh , he just did not respond to treatment . Plus his veins were collapsing making it very difficult to give him any IV treatment and he went down hill very rapidly after she came home . To make things really terrible we finally had to have him put down this past Friday . She is devastated and wants another dog but gosh they live 12 years and I would be in my 80s by then and I just dont think I can do that . I even looked into a rescute dog but as you read about them you see that they are all in a rescue situation because of behavioral traits that Weimies are prone to and IM not sure I want to take over the care and training of a dog with built in problems . I guess the reason I am typing all this is that its a way for me to put it out in front of my own eyes and get a better grip on what I am dealing with .
Although I feel my daughter got wonderful care in the hospital , the problem is always now what .. she just slips thru the cracks . Noone is able to give me any help . She isnt retarded, she isnt helpless , she isnt crazy , shes just not fitting into any of the mental health criteria . Its so frustrating . I have talked to everyone drs, nurses, psychologists , I mean everyone and this is back on me again . Shes doing much better and I think she feels proud of losing weight but how long will that good feeling last ? I dont have any answers yet , not sure I will . I guess its back to taking one day at a time again . I keep telling myself it can always get worse but I think Im going to retire that cause every time I say it , things get worse . How about , it could certainly get better ! Thanks for letting me vent . I dont expect anyone having a solution . I just have to get things out at times . Have a great day .
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Spike, you are awesome! Love your perspective, thanks for sharing.
HUGE HUGS from one mother of Aspies to another…You are an ANGEL on earth. YOU ARE AWESOME ! ! ! !
You mean there are more of us ?? I actually finally found a local psychologist who will see her assuming I can get her to cooperate . So glad to know I am not alone . I hope you are holding together too , its sure hard at times . Any advice is appreciated . I am not alone !!! Yipppeee