I met her at church and we’ve only been getting to know each other since May of this year. It started so innocently. She called to invite me and my parents to join her at a restaurant for her birthday. It sounded fun. So we went.
I opened a can of worrisome worms!!!! Uuggghhh! Why did I do that? I didn’t know what I was getting myself into.
I made the mistake of asking her if her mother was joining us too. I didn’t know she and her mother had a bad relationship. As a matter of fact, they were estranged.
Anyway, the more I got to know this lady, the more her problems started coming out. This lady is 5 years older than I am and I hate to say it, but she is a basket case. She has at least 10 issues and problems. Yes, 10!!!! Maybe more. I stopped counting after 10.
I am not a psychologist, I am not a psychiatrist, I am not a counselor, I am not a personal servant, I am not a chauffeur (she has a car), I am not a bank nor a loan company, I am not social services, I am not a social worker and we are not sisters.
And then on top of all of that – I found out she is a hoarder!!!! She asked me to help her move and I found out all of this when I went to her place. Last Saturday I literally got rid of over 100 bags of garbage. I did it all by myself. What was she doing? She was sitting on her bed with her legs crossed watching television and every once in a while she would come in the room where I was and bark out orders to me. I volunteered a solid 5 ½ hours of my time and she just sat there in her bedroom. There was so much stuff in the room I was working in I couldn’t tell where the floor was. Layers and layers and layers and layers of stuff! I was so overwhelmed but I did it for her. She did treat me to lunch. I thanked her.
This has overwhelmed me and like I said, I am not a psychologist, I am not a psychiatrist, I am not a counselor, I am not a personal servant, I am not a chauffeur, I am not a bank nor a loan company, I am not social services, I am not a social worker and we
definitely are not sisters.
This lady is an energy drainer! I know how to say ‘no’ but she doesn’t know how to accept what I say. Now, I am at the point of ignoring her calls. I don’t feel guilty either. I knew it was something about her when after a couple of weeks of our friendship she was showing signs of being clingy. Whew! Nothing about this lady is healthy. I must be a magnet for attracting people like this. I am not going to let myself be used. Enough is enough! This friendship is toxic and I am running as far away as I can. This time it isn’t me.
Has anyone ever had this happen to them? What did you do?