I have a great, hard working, loving hubby but, we don’t communicate. He spends all of his spare time playing videos games on the internet. I feel so alone at times. I am involved in the community and am trying different outside interests but, it doesn’t suffice for that closeness we once had. We have been married 7 yrs.together for 10 yrs. He started this addiction 5 yrs ago and I left him once over it and he quit his job and followed me out of state and told me he would quit and has not. Nagging of course doesn’t work and makes him play more. NO, I won’t play games with him either it is a absolute waste of human life I feel. There is a 10 yr. age difference too…I am 52 he is 42. So, maybe it is the maturity part that hasn’t kicked in. I am dumbfounded and lost for answers on what to do. I don’t want my life to pass me by with a partner NOT by my side. I may as well be alone.
| Husband hooked on video games |
March 12, 2010
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Well we all know men never grow up so treat him like the child he is. Pull the plug on the computer!
How about a compromise? You say he is hardworking and perhaps this is his way of unwinding, although it sounds like he’s taken it to the extreme. You say you were once close….I wouldn’t give him an ultimatum but do you really want to fully cut off something he enjoys? It could be worse, he could be addicted to porn. However, if he wants to see yo happy, he should ease up on his hobby. What about counseling, have you tried that??
I think video games are a form of addiction. My aunt has done the same thing, is lost in a group of cyber-friends playing poker. They are more real to her than her family. She has always had food addiction issues; this is just another one.
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That’s hilarious!
rotflol — that’s tooo funny!
anything in life could be considered to be an addiction.
I don’t mind him playing it at times…I know he needs to unwind but, as you said he has taken to extremes. He won’t consider counseling and we don’t have much in common. Hmmm…..maybe i have the 7 yr. itch. He gets very annoyed at me whenever I ask him a question about anything when he is playing. He wakes up early on his days off to play video games and is still playing when I go to bed at night. I even bought sexy lingerie and it helped temporarily….lol. BUT, I understand addictions are hard to break. Thanks for your advice.
I had this with my last boyfriend. We worked at the same place. We are similar in ages. We would come home from work and he would head on the computer after dinner where he would spend hours. This was complicated because he had two sons of college ages and they were all gamers and would often be online together. After hours of computer gaming, we would go to bed and he couldn’t understand why there wasn’t a lot of flames going on….sure ignore me for 4 hours and then it’s all my fault. And I couldn’t say anything because if I did, he threw it back up to me that I was jealous of his time with his sons. Ugh…it was exasperating. Not being married, I had the freedom to move on, so I did.
it’s a shame you won’t consider playing some of the games with him. that could bring you closer.
i play LOTS of online games, myself, but EVERY hour i stop what i am doing and devote time to my husband. i go to where he is on HIS computer and give him LOTS of hugs and we have conversations.
you might consider giving him a hug every hour and see if that would encourage him to start listening to you.