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ReginaLove, that is SO great to hear! As for soy, it may help with menopause symptoms -- it it controversial. The best way to use soy is in the form of whole fermented soy foods (miso, tempeh, tamari and natto). Non-fermented soy foods such as soy mi
Agreed. I never thought I was vain until I had a mastectomy at age 39. I was devastated and told the doc I wanted to wake up with implants. Now at age 60, I am lopsided and wondering if I was just avoiding the inevitable. You get what you get and you
Sounds very interesting.
Spike, you are awesome! Love your perspective, thanks for sharing.I will turn 53 in 6 weeks and still break out.
May I also assume that your skin is still quite oily and shows no or very few wrinkles? If so...
COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!
1) Your skin doesn't look like beat-up luggage now, and probably never wi
Join community groups/classes/volunteer groups that have your same interests. You have to get out there…because they/men won’t know how to come to you if you stay at home. Enjoy the activities in the groups…if you don’t meet anyone at least you will have fun making new friends! Be persistent. Make gal friends within these groups and plan outings with them. Avoid bars as a means to meet serious men friends. Ask your beautician to give you advice about make up and the hair style best for you. Go to an upscale department store such as Nordstrom’s and ask if they have a fashion consultant to advise you as to which styles best match you. Sure…you may have to invest a few $$…but it would be worth it. AND…after you are confident that you have the best presentation possible…do NOT settle when they/men come running. Be discriminate….choose the best for you. This doesn’t happen overnight…there will be many frogs…but if you continue these efforts…it sure ups the ante to finding a good man.
The problem I’ve encountered at age 63 was that men around my age were truly ‘over the hill’. Seems that few men reach their sixties still in good physical shape, with an open mind, and not just looking for sex. And it IS true: they’re more screwed up than most women! Those who’ve experienced divorce are jaded. Those who’ve lost a beloved spouse keep comparing you to the deceased wife. Further, we’re all fairly set in our ways, our interests…what we really would like in a partner. Compromise becomes the major issue. Should we? How much should we if we know we’re doing it? I compromised a lot in my marriage–I agree with marylinda: friends with benefits seems to be the most comfortable for me at this stage of my life. But I wonder what’ll happen when the guys die off before we do and we women find ourselves without even a ‘friend with benefits’? I like being my own person. I also like having a man (nearby) who appreciates me. It’s truly a conundrum, isn’t it.
at 50+ go for “friends with benefits”‘…be your own person…men are stressful
You know what you may be very right. I am going to take this as my thought for the day.
I am finding men seem to have as many, if not more “issues” than they feel women have! Agree!!! They are very stressful! I am feeling like Julie…where do you find someone decent? GloJean’s suggestion about volunteering is good. Will try that!
i do agree with your statement. be your own person.
I’m still trying to figure that one out. After my divorce, I dated guys I knew from childhood. I have dated only one person who I did not already know, and we skirted around dating for 2 yrs. Now, I am in a new state, know very few people, and none of them men. Still trying to figure out what to do about that. Thank goodness, my libido appears to be on the slow side right now, or I would be going crazy…lol.
Do the activities that you enjoy and love participating in and you’ll find like-minded men there. Plug into age-appropriate activities around your town – just remember, men are looking for love and compainship too. Let your friends set you up and introduce you to their friends – don’t be afraid to be the “fifth wheel” – you never know who you will meet in the safety of your friends. Every woman I know who has found love later in life has followed this formula.
this is a wonderful response and a positive one. thank you.
I think the right man will come along when you leasdt expect it. Mine did he is 65 and the love of my life. He is still 16 at heart, we have great times and a lot of fun. I was widowed 6 years ago and I was introduced to him by mt son who thought he would be great for me. He was right. Thank you God and my son.