Is it ok to say that I really didn’t like being a mother? Maybe it was the fact that I had two very rambunctious sons and was raising them alone, but it was not fun! Exhaustion and impatience seemed to color the majority of my days, and, despite the fact that my now grown sons assure me I did well, I think they turned out wonderfully in spite of me, rather than because of me.
I now have two grandchildren: a boy getting close to 13 and a girl 10. They spent 5 weeks with me down here at the beach in Florida and just returned home. I miss them, but mostly I miss them because they are truly grand people. I am sure my sons were grand at the same age, but I couldn’t see it, being too consumed with making sure they got as perfect as they could be. I think it’s sad that I missed out on enjoying my young sons as people, and as a grandmother, I highly recommend taking some time to enjoy your children before they grow up.
| “Grand”kids |
July 04, 2012
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Thank you for your truth. I am wanting to become a world traveler. In 2011 I graduated college with an Associates degree in Tourism & Travel Management and Marketing. I need to get healthier, lose some weight and get my savings back up.
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I thought I would revisit this post. I was going to respond to some of the comments but I won't. I realize I wrote this on the wrong site.
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My six year old granddaughter told me just the other day that she is learning yoga in gym class. She said the teacher told them it would help them to calm down and be more peaceful. Then she demonstrated warrior lll and tree pose. I promised her I'd 
An addendum: I'm a little bit of a perfectionist and by little bit I mean a lot. I hate making mistakes, hate getting in trouble and am not a bit fan of being wrong. However, I learned that the most useful thing I could do for myself was to all
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That is exactly what to do to keep your spirit and energy in harmony. Thank you for sharing. Letting yourSelf off the hook is the hard part. Good for you.
I want to share your story with a client that is coming next week who can ne
So true. If only we had understood then how fast the time goes and how little, at the end of the day, we can do to change children, who seem to come into this world hard-wired. But even now, while I can enjoy the grandchildren for who they are, I’m still trying to make my kids perfect.
I realized awhile back that my sons were going to make mistakes, just like I did. I offer suggestions, but I never insist, and I think they understand that they are free to do as they wish, without my being upset that they haven’t used my “pearls of wisdom”. I still would love to fix everything for them, but not pushing has meant that we have developed a much more fulfilling relationship as adults.