Oh I don’t really know where to start! So i will be brief and just give an outline of the situation im going through at the moment.
Reading some stories before signing up to this website gave a little hope and im hoping someone can give me advice and hopefully make me feel a little better.
My son met this girl over a year ago and began a relationship with her, although he knew this girl at school they had not seen each other for a few years and met up again several years later.
She became pregnant last year and I now have a beautiful grandaughter who i love with all my heart, the problems is they have now split up and my sons girlfriend continued to tell him she had been unfaithful when they were together and the baby might not be my sons(although she does look like him) I have a very special bond with my grandaughter but now I dont know what to do please can anyone give some advise.
We have spoke about a DNA test but if only it was that easy I wouldn’t have wrote my story on here, I have bonded with this baby and so have the rest of my family it is tearing me apart.help
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If there was a DNA test and it proved that your son was not the father, would it change how you feel about this baby?????
You love the child, so wether it’s biological or not, it shouldn’t change how you feel. The child is a innocent child, you love it, so why is there an issue now????
Sorry, but that’s just my opinion. Do what you feel you have to do.
I agree. As long as you love the child and mom, what is the question. they may need a support system, and you have wisdom to share. You may be the role model mom never had. Too much panic about nothing. As long as mom is willing to share time with you, or get a break — go for it. Being the only parent is far from a walk in the park and a kind gentle hand to assist is THE best thing ever.
I agree with everyone else. Reach out to the girl and tell her how you feel and that you want to be part of her life and her child’s and why. There are lots of ways to be a family. This is a good opportunity to role model what that looks like.
Yes, there are lots of ways to make a family. Do reach out to this little girl. Tell her you love her and still want to be her grandma. If you think it will help, tell the mother as well that you’d like to be part of the child’s life. So long as you don’t start conflicts, I don’t see if it matters how many grandmothers she has.
She is your granddaughter regardless of DNA or any other test – you love her and care about her and that is all that matters. No matter what happens between your son and this woman you can ask to be part of this little girls life – you never know you may be the most positive thing that could happen to this little girl and the joy she brings you cannot be measured. I have three grandchildren and one is not biologically mine, but I have loved him just the same as the other two since the day he came into my life. I have other people in my life that are not “biologically” family but they are just as close and are loved just as much as any relative could be. Think of the people that never have had their own children but have become grandparents to other people’s children. Love knows no blood line, race, creed or color – children need all the love and support they can get and you don’t have to be related to do that! Good Luck!!!
I agree with all that has been said. But to be realistic you and your son need to have a DNA test done to settled the question once and for all. It is the right thing to do for your son and your granddaughter for the future.
You may invest your Love,Time,Energy into this child only to have her rightful legal Father or Mother or other relatives come and take all that away and not let you or your son see her again.
You can still LOVE that is free to everyone.
Not only do you have a bond with this pecious child and love her, also she has that bond and love for you too. It would also devastate “Her” to loose you out of her life. With all the stress that some kids have now growing up, that didn’t seem as harsh in our days, and we didn’t have cyberbullying, shootings in schools, and all the other things that challenge our children to arrive at adulthood, kind decent human beings who can contribute to society in a positive way. She can use all the love and support from everybody!….It takes a Village, remember? You light up her life, just as she lights up yours!
It really is very simple – If you have the bond, the blood doesn’t matter.
It sounds like your son did not marry her.
He may have to insist on a blood test to have any rights to the infant/child, if it is his daughter.
I would do it sooner rather than later as these things tend to fester and can get ugly.
You did not say how old your son is.
One consideration to think about is child support. IF it is his child, and he pays child support no biggie. If it is NOT his child and he pays child support he needs to think about his future family and is that going to hurt them? It all depends on how much he makes and how much she will want now and in the future….
1-lawyer
2-blood test
3-love always