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I’m not paranoid. When I walk in to certain events or gatherings there’s a specific group that goes into whisper mode. Ignoring them is easier said than done. What I want to know is what can be so horrid about me that they find it so interesting! There’s a BIG event tomorrow night. Half of me doesn’t want to go…
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Are these old friends of yours? Have you had unpleasant dealings with any of them? Or is this a “on my side” deal? Are you an unhappy person n others notice it and don’t want to mix? Or are you special (meaning you carry yourself very well) and they don’t want you around? Just asking…TRACK
You can’t spend your life worrying about the people who may not like you or love to gossip…If you really want to go to this event, put on your happy face and go… otherwise, look for some new fun things to do and search for some new friends. Life is much too short to be unhappy!
You can’t control what others will say or do. The one thing you can control is how you react to it…..If they are gossiping then I would not want to be involved with them anyway. I would continue to just ignore them, or kill ‘em with kindness……
Go to your event looking fabulous and carrying a joyful air about you and just plan on having a good time..it would be my inclination if I see them start to act as you say to just walk up give them a hug and handshake and say how happy you are to see them and hope they have just wonderful holidays…..could be they are gossipping because they are jealous….
If these people are your enemies …..the one thing they do not want to see is you happy…but first look deep into yourself and see what you have to be happy and thankful about …then go to the mirror after you have dressed to the T and tell yourself that no one is better than you and you are better than no one…
That you do are not moved by compliments or insults of others
That you fear no challenges that come your way.
A little bit of advice..
You may want the opinion of a good friend or someone you can trust…How so you dress ? Do you dress revealing? Is it something that they won’t say about you but talk about you behind your back…I say that to say:
I have seen some women who dress” inappropriate”e for certain affairs..real short dresses low neckline and I
have seen people gossiping about them . I once had a friend who had a make- up issue and people would talk about her when we went out .I finally got the nerves to tell her what the problem was and she looked at me and said it was not a problem …She could not see it… Everybody else could ..it made me stop inviting her to personal functions as I did not like people starring and laughing at her…her other friends did not tell her ,,,I now know why.
I hope this helps no one want to be gossiped about and my heart goes out to you…but you cannot let them make you miserable it is up to you if you go then show them what you got in a respectful way and enjoy!!!
Those gossipy old people will do what they do best at anybody and for any reason. There is nothing horrid about you. Actually, you should hold your head high, walk with pride, and give them a smile that will be sure to make them wonder. And definitely will make them gossip harder. Who’s the loser here? Is sure isn’t you. Make it a game and see if you can get them to whisper more … and more.