I hate to be a whiney mom and grandmom but I just need to vent. My son (only child-boy) seems like he and his family want nothing to do with me. My second husband died 2 years ago…..first one left for someone else. So my second husband practically raised my son. After the death his family was wonderful to me for about a week. Then it was like they all went back into their caves and I had to beg for my son (or any of them to do anything for me) so I just stopped and started paying people to do things for me. This was hard because my husband left about enough insurance to bury him. I am 69-70 in Feb. have benign tremors in both hands, and throat. Arthritis anxiety and bladder problems. I rely on my Social Security and a small pension my husband left me. I worked all my life and I thought that at this time in my life I could sit back, relax and not worry. WRONG! I am so lonely!! I try to go during the day (when I feel well) but at night it’s a different story. Just reading or TV. No phone calls and definitely no calls or e-mails from my son or any of his family. I’ve tried to think up things to talk about if they call or stop over but they’re never on the phone or here long enough for any bonding to take place. My grandchildren are now 29 and 23 and I know everyone has their own lives but what’s so hard about picking up the phone and saying, “Hi grandma (or mom) just thought I’d call and say, “”Hi”" and see how you’re doing.” No invitations unless I ask to go, which I’ve stopped. I’m sorry this is so long but this is just half of it and I didn’t want to bore anyone. One thing before I end this…. I was always a “hands on” grandma…..church, movies, bus trips, etc. but it seems like everything my son and I did together when we were on our own or I did with the grandchildren has been forgotten and the loneliness is seems to be the only thing I feel these days.
Thanks for listening.