I don’t like fat free food. I don’t like low fat food either. I don’t eat it anymore. I used to, believing it was good for me, but I was always hungry. Hunger and I do not get along. I avoid it at all costs. I always know where my next meal is coming from. I decided being hungry and miserable was a far greater health risk than eating fat. I threw out the I can’t believe it’s not butter-I could- and returned to It is butter, really.
I can tell, on first sip, when my latte is mistakenly made with low fat milk. I use half and half in my coffee at home. There is nothing “light” in my frig. I would rather not eat ice cream than eat it with all the natural fat sucked out.
To justify my rich taste, I read the Fat Fallacy by Will Cower. I remembered my two week trip to France. The French eat whole everything! They are not overweight and do not have as high an incidence of heart disease as we do. I ate more bread with butter, cheese, cream, ham, pastry and wine while there than I do in two months in Pittsburgh. Surprisingly, I lost weight. I could argue I walked a lot. That being true and significant, the Fat Fallacy suggests we need fat to maintain a good weight. I choose to be a discipline of this belief-we all pick what beliefs we live by.
I have the same preference when it comes to my relationships. I want all the fat; the luscious conversation rich with emotion, slathered in warmth and compassion, topped with honesty. This fills and sustains me for days. I am not hungry. Perhaps that is why I am a therapist. I have the privilege of being with people in very “meaty” ways. I listen to all the ingredients of full course lives.
I know when I have talked with someone that prefers “fat free conversation” because I don’t know them any better than I did before we spoke. I was not “filled” or “fattened” from our time together. I walk away feeling hungry. When I am in a “fat free relationship” I feel lonely even though I am with someone. I am often bored. I find myself offering very little of myself to them and vice versa.
I know that I want to be filled by an exchange with a friend or partner. That I want to know more about myself as a result of knowing more about them. I want to be filled up. I want butter. Not margarine.
I actually think I eat less food when I am satiated in relationship. How about you?
Bon appetite!
Oh my gosh! I felt your inner pain ... and I apologize for the fact that when I got to the part about setting your hair on fire, I laughed. I'm so glad you weren't hurt, and hair grows back. Perhaps a new hair-do would not only rectify the situation 
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Yes, yes, yes! The low fat ‘diet’ products on the market now, and the whole high carb-low fat approach to food has sparked epidemic obesity, insulin resistance and incredible food obsessions in people. I just read ‘The Truth About Beauty’ by Kat James, and as a result am eating fat again-butter, cheese, eggs, olive oil and lo and behold the munchies and sugar compulsion/binges are gone!!! I have lost the spare tire around my waist, and I’m calm, happy, energized and thinking clearly. Thanks for this very important post. Check out informedbeauty.com Kat James’ website,for some amazing transformations.
Thanks for sharing…I, as I am sure everyone that reads of your experience, am inspired and hopeful. How wonderful to eat food you love and have your body respond positively. Good for you!!!
I love your analogy of fats and relationships!! So true…great post!
Yes- this is a sort of metaphor for our times, the whole fat free, dietary pseudo food and the ‘all you can eat of nothing’ approach and the way we relate to people. I think fat equals love(real butter, not trans fat). To do without is to battle compulsions, guilt, cravings and empty calories. My last romantic relationship felt alot like my roller coaster addiction to sugar and flour- obsessive, continuous craving and ultimately deprivation. Time for pure, real food- everyone deserves good food, good fat.
Thanks for your comment. Good Food, Good Fat– that should be on a t shirt!!! I love it!
Thanks Amy…here to fattening friends!!!
Thanks Amy- here’s to fattening friends!!