My daughter is 36 and over the past 22 years she has been disrespectful to me. I have put up with it, then we argue about it, and we have a falling out and this has happened too many times to count. I have 3 grandchildren that I love. She doesn’t prevent me from seeing them. But I am very uncomfortable around her. She has recently said some very mean things to me and I have spent so much time and money on her and the kids.
I was a single mom raising her and I have mental problems that I didn’t understand to know how to address until 2001. I am on medication now. She sees me as weak and yet she is proud and will never apologize or admit she’s wrong. I tried pleading with her to compromise and move forward but she won’t budge. She says she is not responsible for my life. I have never said that she was. She has also told me that my 14 year old granddaughter feels uncomfortable around me because she thinks I judge her and don’t listen to her. Now I am the one uncomfortable.
My heart is broken and I can’t stop crying. I tried to relay that to my daughter and all she says is “it’s all about you!” type of remarks. I live alone and I am 56 and still work full time. I don’t drive so I can’t just go see my grandchildren and they don’t live near public transportation. They have only one car which my son-in-law uses to go to work. I feel so lonely and upset and I don’t think there is a way for my daughter and I ever to make peace. No matter what I say she twists it and turns it against me. I did dote on her a lot in the past because she was all I had. I was over disciplined as a child so I tried to not be over strict yet I was protective of her and she always had love, a roof and clothes and food though I worked and we were poor. But I did the best I could. She saw me depressed and saw me have a nervous breakdown when she was in kindergarten and then she witnessed another in 2001 and then I got the help from medication. She says things like “I love you but you are toxic to me” the “but” pretty much ruled out love I think. She is just so mean to me.