I recently split up a friendship with another woman slightly younger than I am (I’m 50), or rather, she split with me. The arguement was over a comment she made about my daughte’s behavior. It was some unsolicited advice and not appreciated.
Anyway, I lost the frienship, which is bad enough, but now i have been accused by a mutual friend of a huge social gaff. About 4 days after we “broke up” (she sent me an e-mail), I wrote a message to her husband on Facebook. He’s and MD and so am I. I asked him if he thought about going to Haiti for the disaster relief. I said i wanted to go but couldn’t. I said I thought of him when I read my ER literature and I wished his family well. The whole message was 4 senences long. I didn’t gush about the weather aor ask about his golf game. It was one MD to another.
Now i have been accused of the “unthinkable”…writing a message to a woman’s husband when she had broken off the friendship. Mind you, this message was written 4 days after the infamous e-mail.
I’ll admit, looking back, it probably was not prudent. But is it a terible crime i should have known not to do? I have been divorced for 10 years and was married for 20 and I can honestly say i have never come upon this problem before. And I had a congenial relationship with many colleagues when I wasn’t friends with their wife.
Is it that bad/ And any recommendations on how to get out of this situation with the other friendship intact?
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Sounds very interesting.
Dear Char,
I wonder, was the unsolicited advice an isolated incident, or was it the straw that broke the camels back?
I have the urge to answer about the appropriateness of your contact with her husband, but I need more info.
Our VN sisters are going to ask so I may as well, What did she advise, and for what? Why did she end up angry enough to end the friendship, and angrier then you?
How long were you friends? Were you friends with him first, or her? Did he know you and his wife had a falling out?
How does he feel about you and his wife’s inability to “agree to dis-agree”?
Would it cause permanent ill will between them.
I’m guessing you are protecting your daughters privacy by not sharing what it was all about.
So at least give us more details on how you reacted to what she advised.
I imagine the VN posts will be coming, hope you can work this out.
Good luck
Piper