After divorcing their father in 2000, my teenagers went to live with the jerk and his mistress 2 years ago. I remarried and I know the new home, step father and new schools made a difference, but the X also lived in a different town! He basically bribed them to live with him, and then, after the nasty divorce, we got into a nasty custody battle. I finally let them go, as that was what the kids thought they wanted. I am now finally enjoying being teenager free, but my heart seems it will be forever broken! I actually feel different towards my kids now, and dont want to be involved with all that they are doing as I am missing it all. I talked to them weekly and see them e/o weekend. Please dont suggest that I drive there to see their games/plays and etc…it is a 4 hr drive one way and I am just NOT in their lives anymore.
I would just like to hear from others who have gone thru this and how they coped with it, not advice from those who have never been thru this, but think they should tell me what to do!