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Want to start a conversation on women who are not mothers…couples who have no children. Are we that odd?
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Sounds very interesting.
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Maid, this is not odd, it is just apart of life as being a mother….I had a health condition that kept me from having children….this is something most people don’t prepare for in life and it is health to be married…what is sad is people thing you have something wrong as a couple…when it is just what live give you….
Cutiepie49, exactly. if i had a dollar for every time i heard the question, “how many children do you have?” or “do you have children?” so many assumptions. i have been married for over 28 years and it is amazing the questions you get. and then all of those baby showers, children’s birthday parties, school fundraisers, etc. been doing those for 30 years. and the conversations. women always go to the child and baby talk and sometimes i think they can be very insensitive.
hard to vent about this to friends, but i do have one who is understanding (even though she is a mom).
Hi Girls,
I’m 52 with no kids. Truly, I was always so busy that I never desired them enough to make them a priority. Now that I’m older with my husband and no other family, I think about how I took care of my grandmother and Mom when they needed someone. I made the tough decisions to keep them comfortable, safe, financially afloat, and as happy as possible when they became unable to do it themselves. I won’t have a child who loves me to rely on. If I get dementia, who will recognize it? Will someone keep me safe? These worries bother me a bit. But I do know that there are more childless women now than before. I’ve heard that families come in many combinations. Perhaps we who are childless can become a “family” of sorts to provide support, care, and concern when we need it.
Hi Islandgirl88.
You are so right about wondering who will take care of you. My husband and I took care of 3 of our 4 parents. We were with them from the beginning to the end and would do it all over again because we loved them dearly. And amazingly so, the siblings were not there at the same level of effort. Hence, the remainder of our family has evaporated.
Anyway, both of us wonder at times who will take care of us. Also, we find it hard to keep friends. Most are super-absorbed in family matters with their children, who we think are mostly just very spoiled in today’s society. Weird. Wonder how we would have been if we had children.
I have looked around and it doesn’t seem like there are many support groups for the childless. So sad, but I think should we make it into our 80s or so in a nursing home, we will most likely be very lonely and neglected. Sorry to sound so pessimistic.
I find Jesus as solace when I get blue about this. Somehow he makes it all work out, just like he did when we took care of our parents.
Hi, Maid Marion, Perhaps the reason you and your husband were able to provide so much help to your parents is exactly because you did not have children of your own? Could it be that your siblings were parents and otherwise preoccupied? Having one or more children is absolutely no assurance of receiving assistance in your old age. I have volunteered with a local hospice for a long time, and it is surprising how many adult children are estranged from, or otherwise having limited contact with, their parents. Unless the parents happen to have any money left, that is; then, the “kids” are circling like vultures!
I’m baffled by people’s reaction when I tell them I don’t have children, as if they’re disappointed. I think some are just jealous. I certainly don’t envy them.
Be happy.
You are right. They are jealous. Conversely, though, they think that just because you do not have children, you cannot be stressed and you cannot be as productive.