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Does anyone out there prefer being alone than being around people? I am very social when I am out and about, but my preference is to be alone. It allows me to recharge my batteries. I love being in my nest. There is no man in my life, hasn’t been for many years. I would like to meet someone, but know it will never happen in my nest. Just wondering if anyone else shares my love of solitude.
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You sound like me. I am divorcing after 30 years marriage, separated for almost four years. I have my own place and really enjoy being with me.
yes. Nothing feels better after a gathering in someone’s house to know that you have a nice place waiting for you that is your own w/nobody to tell you what to do, what are u cooking or are my shorts washed. The smaller the better for me, less to clean. BUT i have to have a dog. i have 2 now, but when i get older i will just have a little dog.
I could have written this post. I enjoy being alone but feel I may be alone too much. Sometimes I will not even turn on the TV or radio. I will read, play computer games, etc.
I became a widow recently and am adjusting to being by myself. At times I get ansy, but am enjoying my own space. Also, am trying to meet others in the same siuation. Any advice on coping with the upcoming holidays. Thanks and Happy Thanksgiving.
carmen
Carmen,
Many people are alone for the holidays. I have spend many alone. I make my day special with all the things I love. If that means making a special meal, favorite movie, etc. Count the blessing you do have in your life. I have also done, meals on wheels.. That really puts your problems in perspecitive.. You will be fine… call a friend, go visit a shut in… Make your day special, even if… you are alone… Be grateful….
Carmen,
Lost my husband of 23 years and this my is my 2nd Thanksgiving without him. He died in Sept. ’08 so the holidays were not so great that year. I would have to say I am doing 100% better, his sister, me, our kids with grandchildren tried to cook Thanksgiving dinner and it turned pretty darn good. My husband died just 6 months ago and she had been the one who cooked every holiday. It was like us women trying to make the best of the situation and we had fun. My sister in law is divorced.
I do enjoy my time alone but on the weekends when I am off I sometimes do feel ansy and like should be doing something with somebody. I am the type who does love dogs and spending time with them outdoors. I feel though I have to get out sometimes it helps to get me out of a funk. I am not looking for another man I am just enjoying a little bit of freedom now.
Liz
One’s introversion or extraversion is basically hard-wired from Day 1. Some are recharged by solitude, some are recharged by major socializing. Introverts may find it more difficult to meet available singles if it is just too uncomfortable for them to find their way out of the ‘prefer-my-own-company’ comfort zone. Get creative! Join an interest group, volunteer, take up a new hobby. Push yourself.
Yes. I also like to be around people when I want or need to be. But, I love to have at least one whole day at home alone each week. That is harder now that my husband has retired. He gets too antsy being home alot. I love being home. My family have sometimes been concerned about me, but I just say that I don’t feel lonely, I feel content. There is always plenty to do. Or not! =]
Birdlover – like you I ENJOY my own company. It has finally taken my mom – who used to worry about it – to accept that I am ALONE NOT LONELY!!! We used to fight about it ALL the time because I’d rather go off by myself than to be around a whole group of people. I HATE clubs for that very reason and only attend immediate family gatherings. I, too, don’t have a man in my life and PREFER IT THAT WAY!!! There is NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!! You know your own mind and you are true to yourself. That’s the best way to be.
I love being alone, I love going out socializing. My past included husbands and lovers, a child (grown and gone now). My present includes a cat, a friend with benefits, a whirl of activities and family I can step into and out of at will. Very often, I choose candles on the hearth, a good book and a glass of wine for my evening companions.
But, you’re right, you’ll meet no one sitting at home alone, so I recommend a little of both. I don’t know about where you live, but I peruse 2 local alternative papers and the Friday weekender for what’s going on around town. There are numerous art gallery openings. These are free and open to the public cocktail parties of a sort. Every gallery you go to, get on their e-list (I reserve my hotmail for all e-notices, newsletters, etc. and keep my g-mail for personal and business). There are also wine tastings, book signings, festivals, etc.
This time of year in addition to all the gallery invitations (usually once a month each), I’ve been invited to several business open house socials for some small shops that I patronize. The thing is, if I want a destination for any given week, I have several to choose from.
Life is all about balance.
I’m with you a 1000%. I love my friends and enjoy a good hang as well as the next gal but I need my solitude. My work has a lot to do with this I’m sure but I was this way as a child. I am an Intuitive and I do phone Readings all day. Aloneness is required for this occupation and for the inspirational writing I do these days. It might be a problem if I were looking for a relationship to a degree. But as I always tell my clients who have businesses in their homes. When you are really ready to meet someone they will show up. Where? Anywhere. The frozen food section at Safeway. Pumping gas. Waiting on-line at Starbucks. ~ Dr Alexandra Brooks