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60th Birthday Help Hot Conversation

Okay Ladies! I’ve gotten some great ideas from make-up to relationship help from you all. I now need some ideas on what to do for a close friend whose getting ready to turn 60. I want to do something really special for her – not store bought things. I’m counting on you all to give me help with this! Thanks in advance.

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  1. Generic Image moongoddess says

    When I had a birthday last month, a dear friend of mine who I seldom see invited me to lunch at her home.  When I got there, 2 more of my friends showed up and we had a great time.  She bought a variety of deli sandwiches and had some salads.  I was really special for me.  Then of course, I got some cards.

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    • Generic Image SIZZELN says

      That’s because you’re a sweetie, Happy Belated….TRACK

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      • Generic Image moongoddess says

        Thank you!  I don’t feel any older but then, I never do. ;^)

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

        I’ve been thinking of doing lunch.  Just need to find a special place that is new and fun (hard around here!).  Thanks for the help.  BTW – how’s the packing going?

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      • Generic Image moongoddess says

        We signed with a Realtor last night.  We have to get new carpet and get rid of clutter.  We started some but we only 5 days to before the sign goes up.  Whew, I’m tired already!  Still very excited but overwhelmed.  My boys are taking I pretty hard.  They will be roommates in a month so I feel somewhat relieved that they have each other.  They’re very close.  It’s starting to sink in.  More later, have to pack some more ;^)

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  2. Generic Image debanne says

    I took her to see a broadway show. She never in all her 60 years when to see a show on broadway. It was easy for us. At the time we were both living in PA about 2 hours by bus out of NYC. (I have since moved to KAnsas City,MO)

    We spent the day walking around NY Time Square shopping, then the play was a 2:00. dinner later then back home on the bus. Was  beautiful day & we both keep talking about it.

    I’ll be turning 60 this year & we are planing something my surprise!!

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

      Debanne – how great a friend you are!  I’m afraid we live in the middle of Ohio – which if you’ve never been here means there’s not a whole lot of exciting things to do.  But you’ve given me something to think about.  Thanks for sharing – I appreciate it!

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      • Generic Image debanne says

        I see you like  antiques. Does your friend? My friends & I love to quilt, we mapped a road trip for over night to all the different quilt shops, left Friday, found a motel for the night & finished up Sat. you & your Friend can map out a road trip to antique stores. The Amish country sounds like fun too & they probably have lots of quilts & antiques.

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  3. Sunblossom Sunblossom says

    I like Debanne’s idea of an outing of some sort…..I love getaways, even if it is a day trip or just an overnighter…..I agree…find something interesting or unusual, that she would not ordinarily do herself, and do it either togther or with a group of gals…..I see you are in Ohio, if you are perhaps near Amish country you could do an antiqueing road trip etc., or a gals spa day….

    I just turned 60 and it was a truly difficult milestone for me….and I’m just really starting to make the mental adjustment after 5 months….so be sensitive to how she is feeling about that also….

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

      Sun -  Yes, I’m sensitive – I turn 60 a few months after she does.  We have talked about it and I know how she feels – which is why I want to do something really special.  Thanks for your suggestions.

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      • Generic Image Old tom boy says

        How about the Rock n Roll Hall of Fame? Or the Football Hall of Fame? Maybe you’ve been to both or not interested in football.  Don’t know if you are single but would probably be lots of guys at both. Hubba Hubba!! Do something for the first time-It’s a new decade. Go for it!!

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      • Sunblossom Sunblossom says

        You are a great friend….

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    • Generic Image debanne says

      A day at the spa sounds like a great idea! Maybe I’ll pick that for my 60th. LOL

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    • Flower Bear Flower Bear says

      I have to echo that statement. I will turn 61 in July and I still have not finished adjusting to 60. I have to say that finding you ladies over these last couple of months has made all of the difference – I find I am not only feelijng better about it, but about the future as well.. Anyway, I specifically asked my family not to throw a party or anything like that … which is exactly what they did, a surprise party complete with the old jokes. They just didn’t get it. I tried to act as gracious as possible but inside I was seething! I would have preferred a quiet dinner out or even at home.

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      • Storytaker Storytaker says

        Flower Bear – Yes, I’m with you.  She has told her husband and family NO surprise parties.  I’ve done the same.  In fact, I’ve informed my husband that he is taking me away for a road trip for my birthday so that there are no surprises!  I’m glad you are feeling better about it now.  Those birthdays that carry a “0″ are the hardest, aren’t they!

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  4. Generic Image Ladysmith says

    I see some other ladies have suggested a day trip somewhere to do something that she enjoys.  Take along a picnic perhaps – just get out and do something different.  Take in some music maybe.  Have fun. 

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  5. melodyanne melodyanne says

    My first thought is..how much do you want to spend? Not to say a loving gift has to be about money..goodness knows it doesnt..but sometimes depending on the gift..money comes into play. When I read this post..my immediate thought was “what would I want from my best friend if i were turning 60 and money was no object”…and I think I would love the luxury of time..so I might suggest a girls getaway to someplace exotic and fun!  Does she like antiquing? The beach? What is her passion and how can you co-ordinate a trip that corresponds with that? When we were little girls..the most fun thing was a slumber party..where your friends gathered and stayed up late..eating chips and dips and laughing and being silly.  I think a grown-up version of that might be fun..maybe a hotel close to you..(or if everyone has the cash maybe you all go someplace exotic)..and a girls weekend with pedicures and massages and the whole nine yards. If the other girls pitch in..(not the bday girl) you could inexpensively get a weekend suite!  How fun!

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

      A trip is a great idea, but she is doing that with her childhood friend who also just turned 60.  Thanks for the thought!

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  6. RoseDuffy RoseDuffy says

    How about a fresh new look to welcome a new decade.  Not knowing your friend I don’t know if it’s a new haircut or hair color, a trip to a make-up artist, Victoria’s Secret or a local boutique.  Whatever it is do it with her, have fun and enjoy the day. 

    A couple of years ago my husband gave me a pair of red shoes for Christmas.  I never would buy a good pair of red shoes for myself….too impractical….I always went for black or tan that would go with everything.  I love my red shoes, they kicked me out of my old conservative habits.  OK so most of my wardrobe is still conservative colors but my accessories are more fun and playful. It makes me feel good to wear fun jewelry and colorful accessories, and they don’t have to be expensive.  Of course your friend will probably want to go out and show off her new look, so why not do lunch.

    PS Remember Mammy in “Gone With the Wind” and the red petti-coat Rhet gave her!

     

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

      Rose – You are so right!  When she turned 50 I took her out for a make-over.  Had her hair cut, make-up done, bought the make-up – something she would never do – she loved it and we had such fun.  I’m leaning towards giving her a gift “box”.  Lots of little gifts inside one box for different things – a book for ‘my’ time,  a romantic cd (she’s been married a long time!), a journal for the next 10 years – things like that.  But I needed a special gift – now I’ll look for the red petticoat!  Thanks so much!

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      • RoseDuffy RoseDuffy says

        Love the idea of the gift “box”, it’s the kind of gift that is sure to bring smiles and happy memories throughout the year.  I hope you both have fun celebrating.

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  7. Lynnette Lynnette says

    you have to know what she likes and it would be great to do something she always wanted to do but couldn’t. 

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  8. JoyfulC JoyfulC says

    Hi Storytaker,

    how about incorporating the number 60 into the gift. A couple of years ago, 2 friends of mine and myself wanted to give our 4th close friend a fun day for her 50th. So we chose to do a 5-0 theme day. Everyone kept saying it was the big 5-0.  We went to a restaurant with 5-0 in it. We had a group photo shoot with 5-0 themes in it, we rubbed on fake 5-0 tattoos. I can’t remember all the stuff we did, but we laughed all day long. You could probably think of some unique ways to incorporate the number 60 into a day of fun. Think about all possibilities….

     

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

      Joyful (I love your name by the way!) -  I am going to think hard about how to do things with the ’60′ in it – thanks much!

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  9. Bonnie McFarland Bonnie McFarland says

    My sister send me 60 “somethings” every day for 2 weeks before my 60th b’day. Like 60 jelly beans, 60 malt balls, a paperback book with 60 in the title, a tablet with 60 pages. None of the bad joke aging stuff. Nothing expensive. Just fun, silly things.

    I came to look fwd to the pkg and I loved that she had put so much time & thought into this for me. And I felt loved.

    The last package had a teddy bear that was my mom’s (she died a year ago). My sister & I both have special feelings about this bear.  My sister “loaned” it to me for my b’day and until I was ready to send it back. That brought me to tears.  

    By the way, I know I won the sister sweepstakes. I love my sister and realize how blessed I am to have her in my life.

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

      Bonnie – Thanks for the info!  I have thought of doing a ’60′ thing but actually couldn’t think of much!  I am going to get her 60 Hershey Kisses – but everything else I thought of would be just too expensive.  Getting things with ’60′ in the title is a great idea!  I appreciate your letting me know and yes, you’ve got a great sister! =)

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      • Bonnie McFarland Bonnie McFarland says

        You’re welcome, Storytaker! Have fun with it & let us know what you come up with.

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      • empowerchicks empowerchicks says

        Here’s a fun idea…not really a party…and depending on how you do it, not terribly expensive. Years ago, I planned a scavenger hunt for a friend who was turning 50. It started with a small gift and a clue that led to the next location…it could be someone’s home or a restaurant, where a few people were waiting with a small gift and something to eat or drink or both….(I did the driving). One of the locations was in a park where we had balloons and a few friends waiting with birthday treats….it can be whatever you think would make your friend feel special. The most important thing I believe is keeing in mind what she would like. Too often well meaning people plan parties and give gifts without thinking about who is receiving them. Often, the most meaningful gifts aren’t expensive, they’re thoughtful. Whatever you do, your friend will feel very loved when you tell her how you came up with all of the thoughtful things you’ll be doing for her, After all, friendship is the most thoughtful and priceless gift of all. What a blessing!

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      • Generic Image Old tom boy says

        Don’t forget a best of the 60′s CD.  What else could we come up with?  I’ll be 60 in a little over a year so that means lots of classmates will be, too.  I could use a lot of ideas so let’s come up with lots of ideas.  How about DVD with Andy Rooney off of 60 Minutes?  Or just a 60 minute (hour) gift certificate for a massage? 6 dimes taped so a specail card.  Now it’s your turn. Go!!

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    • Generic Image debanne says

      I have a close friend who is turning 65. I’m going to use your idea just change it to 65 somethings. What great fun!! Thank you

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    • Generic Image Ladysmith says

      what a great gift – such fun, and lots of love and care went into it.  I love it!!

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  10. Generic Image Renee5 says

    Good topic–I think that we should mark these milestones by taking the time to do something customized for the person we care about.  My sister is turning 60 in August.  I usually visit here with lots of family around; but this year, my husband and I are going up – he’ll stay for a couple of days,then fly back by himself and she and I will get some uninterrupted time together.  She’s always entertaining and doing for others, so I will be thinking of ways to spoil her.  I like the mani/pedi idea, and maybe I’ll take care of the food, etc for a few days–just not let her lift a finger.  I can’t afford to take her away anyplace–but it might be possible to get a night at a hotel in a nearby town for a night.  Also, I’m thinking of writing down 60 things I love about her, or 60 memories of how great a sister she has been to me, and an Aunt to my kids-things like that.  She’s a wonderful person, and it won’t be hard to make those lists!  Thanks for sharing your ideas everyone–cool stuff!  

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    • Bonnie McFarland Bonnie McFarland says

      Mary, you’ve got some great ideas for your sister’s b’day. I especially like the 60 things you love about her or 60 memories. I’d love to be on the receiving end of something like that!

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  11. Generic Image Jean CPA says

    We live near Indianapolis and four of us went to an elegant tea shop in Carmel for high tea and lunch.  It was glorious, then we went to a museum.

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    • Storytaker Storytaker says

      Jean - Your post triggered me to remember that there is a new little tea shop in a town close to us that will be the perfect place for lunch!!  I would not have thought about it if you had not shared – thanks!

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  12. MirrorWoman MirrorWoman says

    Nothing like a milestone birthday to get the creative juices flowing! Here are a couple of thoughts:

    - A class together. Or maybe a day of learning. Start with a beginners yoga class – maybe with a personal session with a yoga teacher who can tailor activity to your skill level. For lunch or dinner a cooking class at a favorite restaurant or cooking school where you eat what you learned. Maybe your library is offering a film critique that day or historical presentation. Take a tour of a local house museum. Then find a scrapbooking or photography class to release your inner artist. Last, finish with a class on meditation or reflection or some other workshop that leads you to personal insights and growth. The fact that you learned and spent time together will make this even more wonderful for her birthday.

    - A fresh new look at her style. Sign her up and take her shopping with a personal shopper at your largest department store. Or find an image consultant who will objectively show her the most flattering styles and colors to wear for her new decade. (Our bodies change but our taste in clothes often doesn’t keep up!) Then treat her to a pair of jeans that fit great. Or a t-shirt that makes her eyes sparkle. Or a bra that makes her look 5 years younger and 5 pounds lighter.

    - Help her declutter something in her life that needs it. Her basement or her photo boxes. Her closet or her address book. It’s lots more fun with a willing partner. And a great gift of time.

    - Does she walk for exercise? Make a great playlist of upbeat favorite oldies for a few hours of walking. Download it to her iPod or – if she doesn’t have one – put the tunes on an MP3 player as a gift. 

    Enjoy the celebration and share time together, both of you reflecting on the best of the past and your dreams for the future.

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  13. Evelyn Gallardo Evelyn Gallardo says

    On my 60th my girlfriends and I drove 2 1/2 hours to wine country. We tasted great wine, laughed and hugged for 3 days. We hadn’t all been together for 28 years since we played on a softball team together. It was great re-kindling our friendshps and re-bonding. Took lots of photos and one of my girlfriends created a video as a gift for all of us. We enjoyed it so much we’re doing it again when another one of us turns 60 this October. The length of the trip doesn’t matter. A day trip anywhere with girlfriends is priceless.

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    • Generic Image debanne says

      I’m trying 60 this October…can I join you?? LOL

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      • Evelyn Gallardo Evelyn Gallardo says

        Mais oui! My girlfriend’s birthday is October 3rd. We all agreed this was the most fun we’d had together in decades. The girlfriend who created the video brought her video camera and Mac along. She was taking  an iMovie class and submitted the video she made for us as one of her assignments. All of us are forever grateful and can relive our time together whenever we want.

        Speaking of videos – Animoto.com has a free and simple program to create videos from photos with music. Now that’s a cool gift if you have access to some photos.

         

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  14. Generic Image Mama Mia says

    My sis is turing 60 and we are having a surprise party with friends and relatives.  Some are travelling quite far.  We will kick it off with a fun BBQ at my home.  Her daughter  is doing a cd of all her moms favorite music with heavy emphasis on the  60”s and 70s’.  Probably do karoke as well.   We are all gathering photos of her life and putting them into a dvd memoir. 

    We have a motorohome and 2 of the family rented and they will all be here when she arrives. So we will have fun games for the kids a campfire and just have fun that eve.  It will be a potluck thank goodness.  The next day we will have a nice cook out breakfast and then head out on a road trip. 

    I am trying to find some of her memoirs from the 60′s.  Remember the hairpieces?  Want to put a hippie outfit together for her, find her baton-she was a majorette in highschool and heaven forbid even looking for her clarinet…I hope she’s not playing! I still remember that squeal.  I so wish I could find her wing-rhinstone glasses that she has on in one of her school photos.  It will be fun.

    BUT if I was just doing something for a girlfriend and could figure out a way to do it.  I’d rent a mustang convertible and pop in 60′s music, head to the beach and hamburger stand, then get some strawberry wine and  ‘hang out’. HA!

     

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    • suskaw suskaw says

      I’ll be turning 60 in July and I absolutely love the beach, hamburger stand and strawberry wine.  My old high school friend lives in Galveston, maybe I’ll see if we can do this together.  Haven’t seen her in about 30 years so that in itself would be a wonderful birthday present!  Thanks Mama Mia for the good suggestion.  I’ll keep everyone posted ;) _

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  15. Generic Image crannc says

    Storytaker;

    Sixty is a milestone to be embraced like high school or college graduation, marriage, or a welcome to womanhood party when a girl gets her first period. How about inviting your friends new and old to a luncheon to, express, in her own way the positive aspect of reaching the age of beginning wisdom and middle age?

    We had a similar event for a dear friend and the resonant good energy was palpable. One friend sang, another read poetry she had written, one brought artwork she had particularily appreciated to share. One told stories of her mother and grandmother that were inspiring to us all. Gifts are nice of course, but they need not be expensive. If each person brings a potable flower start, a birthday basket can be made on the spot with the love each friend or relation brings. The same idea can be seed packets for spring, or plants for the garden.

    Wine or tea, coed or not, the whole idea is to share yourself and honor the age and the person in a positive loving way. Everyone will come away with a bit more love and joy from a party like that!

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  16. Generic Image gwenvalerie says

    you don’t mention if she is married or not….if not how about  cruise for cougers…sounds like a blast to me,but then i’m only 58!

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  17. Generic Image epifane60 says

    My friend is turning 60 on June 1st.  We are taking an extended weekend driving trip to western Michigan, basing ourselves in Saugatuck.  We have no plans, other than where we are staying. We plan to shop, eat, drink and visit the local wineries.  Having no specific plans is hard for me, as I usually plan everything, but it is what my friend wants to do, and I want to make this special for her.  Looking forward to making memories!

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  18. Bonnie McFarland Bonnie McFarland says

    Can you keep a secret? I don’t want my husband to find out. :)   There’s a service at http://www.lifeonrecord.com that allows you to create a keepsake CD of messages that family & friends leave for the guest of honor. I think this will be one of his best presents ever & a fabulous idea for a 6oth b’day.

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    • Generic Image debanne says

      How cool is that!! It would be a great anniversary gift too. we’re coming on 40 years! Hard to think of something. We went to a James Taylor & Carol King concert & dinner for our 40th, (which is in June) it was great fun to live through our years with them!!

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      • Bonnie McFarland Bonnie McFarland says

        Hadn’t thought of it for an anniversary gift but you’re right. That would be fabulous. I heard the Taylor/King concert was great.

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    • Evelyn Gallardo Evelyn Gallardo says

      Love this. My girlfriend who’s turning 60 in October will appreciate such a thoughtful gift. Hmm…wonder if we should all do it for her before or after our wine tasting weekend? Definitely not during! Thanks for the great tip Bonnie.

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      • Bonnie McFarland Bonnie McFarland says

        You’re welcome, Evelyn. Hmm. It might be interesting to do it during wine-tasting. :)

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      • Generic Image debanne says

        Definitely during the wine-tasting what fun that would be. Last time we when on a wine-tasting trip we rented a limo to take us to the winerys, this was up on Lake Seneca (one of the Finger Lakes in NY). We got so very silly & didn’t have to worry about driving. We couldn’t believe all the wine we bought!! The Finger Lakes  is beautiful country too.!

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      • Evelyn Gallardo Evelyn Gallardo says

        You’re right – during the trip will definitely be funnier.

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