When I was 53, I had been on HRT for 6 years when the results of a study linked HRT to various cancers about 11 years ago and my doctor refused to refill my prescription. I was left with withdrawal symptoms in addition all the menopausal symptoms I originally had.
I found an herbal cream that simulated estrogen. I purchased one tube and rubbed it on the inside of my thighs and inside my elbow a couple of times per day, weaning off it by reducing the dosage and the frequency until the tube was gone—about six months. This worked for me and I have never had a hot flash or vaginal pain since. However I still had some dryness so had to use lots of lubrication which then contributed to my partner not being stimulated enough during intercourse.
A few years later my partner who was 18 years younger than me, left me for another woman a few years younger than me. I was devastated but pulled myself together. I found out that this woman was a Tantrika, a woman who practiced Tantra Yoga.
From the time my partner and I broke up and for four years, I was celibate. But I became very curious about Tantra Yoga. I attended a weekend workshop and was hooked. I took a certification course in Tantra Yoga and diligently did all the practices of White Tantra. This is what Tantra is called when you don’t have a partner. It is not so much about self pleasuring, but more about using your breath, sexual energy, all seven chakras to revitalize your self. Additionally, there were great exercise practices for the vaginal muscles---far beyond what kegels could do.
I found that energetically, I was able to stimulate my sexual energy so that it seemed to me my sex organs were becoming functional again. But since I was celibate, I did not get any feedback.
Then three years ago, I met a young man who was interested in working on a project with me. We worked very well together and spent a lot of time together. Well one thing led to another and we became lovers. What a delightful surprise to find out that everything worked perfectly as if I were in my thirties again. At the time I was 61 and I was lubricating naturally, I had no pain except when we had sex a couple of times per day every day. The pain was more from overdoing it a bit.
From the Tantra exercises, I was able to flex my vaginal canal so that it felt very good to my partner. And after three years, we are still together, having regular sex. I don’t take any HRT or anything but I continue to do my Tantric practices often to keep me functional.
