April, I agree with Sunblossom about eHarmony. I'm actually registered there right now and because I am in graduate school and have no flexibility about moving (and no desire to do so) at the present time, I chose my very local geographical area. I realize that will make things go a lot slower, but it is reality. So far I've met a couple of very nice men this way, though we were not well matched enough to proceed.
I also agree about the other sites. About six years ago when I was re-entering the world of dating, I looked at match.com. It was all new to me and I found it intriguing, and though I logged on and looked around, I didn't sign up. Just recently when I was deciding which site to register with, I went back to look at match.com again. Not only were the same men still there, but they still had the same old photos posted!!! In fact, that's how I recognized them from before. That did it for me. I chose eHarmony.
Take your time and be happy with your life as it is. Do other things. This is the same advice I give myself, and I know that when I am ready the right relationship will unfold.
