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Valentine's Day
posted 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

I am at such a loss as to what to buy my hubby on Valentine's Day. Any ideas? He has the usual jewelry, clothing, and cologne.

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llacey2001's avatar llacey200…
llacey2001 said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Think of something he LOVES but it isn't a favorite of yours....and get him that...a book about something he loves, a shirt the color or style he wont wear because you don't like it but he loves it, 2 tickets to an event he would love to go to(you don't have to love it) and then GO with him without a complaint ("Honey I want to go so I can see how much fun, joy you have doing it") Give him something that lets him know, you love him for who he really is, not just for him the way he knows you want him to be.

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TRACK said to llacey2001 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

These are smart moves and ideas. :-)

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WOW said to llacey2001 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Thanks llacey; A major sports event would be great if we had one close by and I could obtain tickets.  He is a "Sportaholic", we have the same flair for clothing (so he loves anything that I buy him to wear).  I'm going to make a few calls on a sport event though, so thanks again.

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moongoddess said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Books.  We don't do candy, cards or flowers.  Everyone gets a book or two.  It started a few years ago and now, we are all looking forward to it.

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WOW said to moongoddess 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

I just gave him a book for his birthday. Our biggest obstacle is that we have four special dates in a row for which we love to exchange gifts:  his birthday (December), Christmas,  my birthday (January) and Valentine's day.  By the time we get to February, we are both tired of trying to be creative!   I have tried to convince him that we could skip the Christmas gifts and plan for either a big birthday bash or Valentine's Day, but he wants to celebrate each one.   I have given him books on some occasions; he loves giving me the candy, cards and floweres.  I'm almost inclined to go with a Bed and Breakfast. . . he loves breakfast and will most likely love the bed for Valentine's Day LOL!  There are some nearby locations around here.                 Thanks Moongoddess.

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rose 6 said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Yes!  Give him an experience.  B&B sounds fun.  A helicopter ride.  IMAX movie tickets.  Gift card to a computer store if he's a computer guy (this is not an experience, I know).  Make his favorite dinner.  Reservation or gift card for a massage.  A trip with the boys.  Have fun!!

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NanaCatharine said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

this is another one of those days we don't celebrate, by choice.  it's so commercial, so hyped up, so expensive.

try getting dinner reservations for tonight?  forget it.

try going to the mall and seeing all this valentine's day stuff that will be discounted 50% by tomorrow.

I am so anti all this stuff.  HOWEVER:

having said that I have been known to cut out little red hearts  and write favours on them:

one kiss, one IOU, one breakfast out, one movie pass, one back rub, one coffee in bed,  etc. etc.

my husband is not particularly romantic, but it SLAYS ME when I open the fridge and see a little jug of milk he has put there, because he NOTICED that my very small hands can't quite grip the milk jug very well.

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mssr7 said to NanaCatharine 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Find a stable that will let you rent some horses for a backride in the moonlight. Then cuddle by a pitfire under the stars. And talk where it's calm and quiet.

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Shelby Jean Etheredge said to mssr7 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Tried to send you a message from my email but it says you are not accepting private emails

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mssr7 said to Shelby Jean Etheredge 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

how do I change the setting... looked on the 'edit profile' page, but found not.

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Petitetiger said to NanaCatharine 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

We are the same.  We do not celebrate Valentine's Day because we are in love all year long and all year long we show each other.  It's crazy to pay double for roses because it's Feb. 14th.  You and I are lucky to have men who do those things that make life easier for us just because they love us and for no other reason.

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buzzingbee said to NanaCatharine 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

We never go out on Valentine's because of the crazy throng, but we went one night last week and had a beautiful dinner, got wonderful service and had our own celebration.  That is what we have done for years, why join the madding crowds.

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JoanPrice said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Make it something that the two of you can do together to bring back the romance. An overnight getaway? A couple's massage?

Or how about gifting him with an experience that you and he used to enjoy when you were dating or just married and oh-so-romantic? What did you used to love to do? What events or social activities did you enjoy together? Bring that experience back.

- Joan

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JoanPrice said to JoanPrice 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

For example, my husband loved the blustery Northern CA coast near where we live, and he loved his grown son very much but they didn't get to spend much time together. I surprised him with an overnight at a hotel on the coast (we lived just a half hour away, but it was still special to stay overnight there), and surprised him again with his son showing up with a picnic lunch at a time I had arranged secretly. He was so happy.

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JoanPrice said to JoanPrice 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

One more thing -- on the last Valentine's Day Robert and I spent together, he asked directly what I wanted as a present. I said, "A letter telling me how much you love me." Instead of a letter, he cut dozens of hearts out of Valentine's Day wrapping paper and on each one, he wrote something he loved about me. The memory makes me cry, but it will be a great joy and comfort to shake those hearts out of their large envelope and read them again this Valentine's Day.

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Helloitsme said to JoanPrice 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Sweet!!! You must miss him very much :(

It's so hard to get men to be romantic. I've asked on several occasions for something special from the heart, a list of reasons why you love me etc, but I'm still waiting.  How can we get the message through to them.  Why don't men acknowledge a need to BOND, or do they not feel that need?  They always seem to be "attached" and need to know every detail, but rarely express what brings them to feel that way. Sometimes it makes me wonder, is it love or possession?

Jender's avatar Jender
Jender said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Does it have to be a purchase?

 

WOW's avatar WOW
WOW said to Jender 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

No, not necessarily.  We love celebrating our love, but I know without a doubt that he will be expecting something which I have already purchased.  He always buys me expensive gifts that I really do like and cherish. 

RENEE's avatar RENEE
RENEE said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

pack his and your overnight bags and take him to a hotel for the night,don't tell him about any of it until you get there.have everything in the car and the room set up .....then invite hime to go for a drive.

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hilandflwr said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

Last year I found a beautiful carved wood box and filled it with paper hearts in pinks and reds with all those little things I love about my husband written on each one.  I thought about this for weeks, so the box was full of colorful hearts.  My husband was completely flustered and touched when I gave it to him, and I still occasionally walk in and see him sitting on the bed reading my heart-shaped messages.  (He keeps his box on his bedside table.)  This year, whenever I think of something else that should be in the box, I write it on another heart and put it in his lunchbox.  He always saves them and puts the new hearts in the box with the others.  It makes me happy to know he loves it so much.  Because even though they're just paper hearts, everything on them is a piece of my heart.

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Sunblossom said to hilandflwr 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

I love this idea and that  you keep it going past Valentines Day....

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NYCQUEEN4ADAY said to WOW 02/08/2010, 06:40PM new!

BUY SOMETHING FOR BOTH OF YOU FOR VALENTINE'S DAY..IT'S TOO LATE TO SHOP ON LINE  AT ADAM & EVES BUT I AM SURE THERE IS A GNC OR HEALTH FOOD STORE SOMEWHERE NEAR YOU. BUY SOME ALMOND MASSAGE OIL AND SOME AROMATHERAPY CANDLES AND HAVE A ROMANTIC EVENING AT HOME. RUN A NICE BUBBLE BATH FOR TWO AND A BOTTLE OF HIS FAVORITE WINE OR CHAMPAGNE AND SOME STRAWBERRIES. THE SIMPLIER THE BETTER AND MORE ROAMTIC TOO. MY HUSBAND ALSO HAS ALL THE BELLS & WHISTLES SO WHAT GIFT COULD BE MORE LOVING THAN A GIFT OF YOU PAMPERING HIM ON VALENTINE'S DAY*

ENJOY!

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