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I'm going to a family wedding at the end of February in S. Cal. I live in eastern PA. I have a lovely, deep plum dress made of a very sheer fabric. My instinct is to wear sheer black hose with close-toe shoes, but my CA relatives tell me hose are passe. My legs are not ready to bare - any suggestions?
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I agree with loonamea. Try different ways of making your legs look tanner. Since your wearing closed toed shoes, wearing hose is more acceptable. But if you were wearing strappy sandal type shoes, bare legs and an awesome pedicure is a must.
Yep, hose are passe. I use a self tanner on my legs, Loreal Sublime. It gives a nice glow with no streaks.
I use Loreal Sublime all summer. Works great! Can't remember the last time I wore nylons.
Wonder what is in those self tanners, what kind of Chemicals are we spraying on our skin, the biggest organ our body has....just saying...
I think lovemylife and rose 6 must both be young and have flawless skin to go bare legs - past 65 just doesn't work, especially if you are going out formally. just my opinion. old fashioned. like the "finished" look
I wonder if you would feel that way if you had a lot of spider veins that are difficult to cover. And, bare legs can get COLD.
Spinder veins, well, I say use patterned hosery to confuse the eye like camoflage over tanks. I too have this issue with veins like a high country road map. I have been known to wear as an under base solid hosery with patterned over it. I wear long dresses when all else fails.
I have a great idea , someone invent camoflage spray tan . you know sort of like the clothing , noone would know the difference and it would be a very original fasion statement lol
Bare legs are definitely apropos in summer, but in February, stockings are better, especially if you are more comfortable in them. A good pair of stockings ($7.00+) in nude should go very well with your dress. (Nude or patterned) I live in Arizona and have had this quandary in past.
Well go bare legged in below 20 degree weather and see how warm the spray on is. LOL I like bare legs in the summer, but 5 months out of the year in michigan it's a non issue I wear pants with long johns.
I wear tights in the fall and winter , because my legs get cold....even in CA...In the summer, I agree cooler to go bare....but, for a sheer fabric dress, some sheer black hose in closed toe shoes doesn't sound bad....That is what I wold do, since it is still February.....=]
Go dressed how you will feel best. passe for one person isn't for another. Besides ...think about it .... is anyone going to pay that much attention to any one other than the bride & groom??? Even in CA they will not pass up writing about the bride & groom to write about your lack of or your wearing hose.
I agree if you feel good about your outfit you will project that. There is a lot of chatter on different sites regarding bare legs versus pantyhose. Many men have commented also and they overwhelmingly prefer hose becauseof how they look on a womans legs. I could never go bare legged because I have so many blueveins especially around my ankles. My daughter and daughter-in=laws all go bare but they are blessed with great naturally tanned legs. I know it is the in thing to go bare but it is the ipinion of many fashionistas that very few women over 50 and many younger do not look well in bare legs despite a perfect manicure and shave and spray tan. I am even thinking this year that I may have to forget about capri pants due to the blue ankles. I know no one is looking but I do look in the mirror and dont like what I see.
I agree, Rosie. I think many women don't want to admit that hose look nicer on most women. As for not wearing capris, try Sally Hansen airbrush legs - http://www.goldivas.com/articles/article.aspx?id=103 this product will cover the blue veins, and there is a reasonably wide range of color choices.
How long does that last??? I'm about to go to California myself and I have Casper the friendly ghost kind of white legs. I've had some of the tan creams fade off on my sheets too. Does that one?
Again what kind of chemicals are in those? I'm studying to be a Naturopathic Dr., and I am amazed at all the chemicals we put on our bodies on a daily basis, and wonder why we feel ill. I'm not sure its good for our bodies to be doing all that.
I couldn't agree more. There are so many chemicals in our lotions and potions that shouldn't be in our bodies and the skin absorbs things much more than we realize. think about the patches that are prescribed - like nicotine patches and birth control. I know the dosages on the patches are lower than the dosages on the tablets taken internally because the skin is so efficient at absorbing them.
I totally agree. Way too many chemicals.
I did it. I tried the Sally Hansen airbrush legs. I love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That stuff is great. I won't use anything else. Thanks for sharing Rita@Goldivas.
Dress to impress yourself. If you are comftobale in hose wear them. I havre a thyroid condition an I could never go bare in the winter.if you are going to wear closed shoes wers hose if you are going to wear sandals if you wanna hose wear the,. you have to take care yourself no hose is for teenagers.
I don't have a problem with you wearing hose, but rethink the color....in my opinion, black hosiery should only be worn sparingly...and not at a wedding, unless it's an all black wedding. Go with some nice sheer hosiery with a bit of a tan tint and sheer toes in case you want to kick off those heels and have a good time.
Perhaps going with a plum shade of hosery would be more classy than black. What color are your shoes? Plum? The black hosery with a different color clothing might be the real passe thing. Pretty well matched hosery is always attractive.
Hose are definitely passe. Sally Hanson makes a leg makeup product you spray on that I used in a similar situation, a wedding last April in AZ, and I loved it. You may also want to use a self-tanner all over, and the places that do the spray on tan are great just for this type of event. Enjoy the wedding!
I know that wearing hose is considered passe, but, by who? The younger generation who have great legs! My legs aren't too bad, but I will say that I feel horrible in the winter, when I am going to a "fancier" event not wearing hose! It just feels too bare to me and I do live in southern California. I also have heard some men comment on how they hate this trend among women . My husband hates this trend among women over 50. There are too many out there that don't have the greatest legs no matter what they do. I totally agree with rosiemay!
By who? Well, the fashion mavens I guess, the ones who choose the colors, styles and trends for each new season. Me? I've always loved fashion, so I like to keep up with the trends, and I think many Boomer women shoot themselves in the foot and look older than they are because they cling to their old wardrobes. For those now job hunting, that may be a deal breaker.
In cold weather, tights are the thing to wear, preferably black, but there are some great colors out there that can pop a look. Patterned tights? Love them, but best to leave them to the younger gals. Leggings with a long top are good too; just make sure the top covers what needs to be covered.
Obviously, how one's legs look makes a difference, because a self-tanner or leg makeup may not cover all problems. So, if needed, wear hose that looks close to skin color. Also there is hose with open toes to wear with peep-toe shoes, because your nylon covered toes should not be peeking out.
Men's opinions? Have had plenty of them in my life, and would say most know next to nothing about fashion. Men tend to like what they think is sexy, and those thoughts formulated in their adolescence, so for Boomer men, yes, they think hose is sexy. God knows, I used to have drawers full of thigh-highs for the various boyfriends!
So, bottom line, I believe you can look good, be fashionable, and cover your flaws, if you just look at the trend, then figure out how you can approximate it in a way that looks good andworks for you. And walking is a great way to tone legs.
I personally wouldn't work for a company that refused to hire me because I wore panty hose. What in the hell kind of business decision is that for a company?
My daughter-in-law works at a bank and they are required to wear panty hose if they wear a dress. Personally, I tend to agree that it looks much more professional but do not agree that an employer should have that much say in one's wardrobe choices.
It's not the pantyhose, it's the total look that either says you're old or you're not. Appearance always counts, and in today's economy, maybe even more so. It's been said employers make a hiring decision within the first minute, before any interview questions are posed, so appearance, carriage, and personality projection are important.
Correct...that's assuming that those that wear pantyhose are dowdy dressers in general. Which is not me by any stretch. But at 58 I have very large veins and multiple spider veins. I wear a very very sheer panty hose ...so shear that it's hard to see a runner .....it smooths the viens and uneven spots on my legs but avoids looking dated as well. Much more professional looking.
Old is a state of mind. It's not what we wear. I have seen very young women with very old minds, and very old women with minds that are young as a spring rain. Professional is clean, neat, and classic. Not a hard look to achieve. Add a big smile of confidence and you are set.
If you're job hunting, you may be interviewed by someone young enough to be your child or even grandchild. Like it or not, that's the person who needs to think you are someone he/she and colleagues can relate to, in order to move ahead in the hiring process. I wonder if the women on here who say they wouldn't work for someone who judges them by appearance are among the thousands and thousands of unemployed, many, many of whom are Boomers.
You hit the nail on the head! It doesn't take a lot of $$ to be style conscious but you MUST be reasonable in determining what is age appropriate. I'm all about doing what makes you comfortable but on special occasions I see nothing demeaning about being cognizant of current trends and incorporating them into your attire. I see so many women who look twice their age just because they're trapped in a time warp!
I don't compete with the 30 year olds but I do want them to look at me and say....."that's what I want to look like when I'm her age"!
AMEN!!!
if you are going the self tanner route, I'd alow severa days of application, takes a while to look "natural"
Yes, that is correct. Best to start about a week before your event. However, time is shorter if you use one of the spray tan facilities.
Thanks to all of you for your suggestions. I have some time to experiment with the products you mentioned. I'm afraid my sisters and nieces will laugh their blonde california heads off if I wear hose ;)
I say let them laugh their bleached blond heads off...someday bleach blond might be passe....LOL
LOL so true llacey...
Just keep this in mind, musicwith, Californians are very, very , very casual when it comes to dressing. Yes, even for a wedding. I shudder when I think of some of the ways people have come to some weddings that I have attended. (Don't even let me get started on funerals!) And believe me, not all Californians are the best fashion experts either! You dress however you feel comfortable. It will still be chilly in late Febuary. It is in the low 60s today , down in the 40s in the evening so, to me, bare legs would be too cold .
Aside from my blue ankles, hairy stubbled kneecaps and the occasional road map winding around my calves, why I would certainly go bare legged! You gotta feel comfortable in your own legs, covered or uncovered!
I say do what YOU want, the heck with everyone else! Do what's in your comfort level.
Right, I love all the patterned tights. They're so much fun to wear! You can express yourself and not fall into a uniform mode. Tend setters always get crap.
don't be tricked into a fashion that is not you. I just went to our CEO's funeral. The ladies that wore the fitted suits with sheer stockings looked a lot more polished than the ones that their legs were bare. I have not worn a skirt in years because i hate the bare look and it is too hot in So Florida to wear stockings. I may try the long skirts again, i feel comfortable with those w/o stocking and w/o slips... too hot down here. But even in SoFlo, today is going down to 50ish, for us that is cold. Bare legs tonight and you will freeze your fundillo.
How long is your dress? If the dress is very sheer -- how about some fancy lingerie?
That would make up my mind. If it's long, I'd skip the hose. If not, I'd go to CA and look around at what people are wearing and then make up my mind.
I'm just wondering why you care so much what these CA relatives & friends think. I hope everybody's looking at the bride, and not your legs. Have fun!
Thank you Jender, good suggestions.
As to the relatives, I guess sibling rivalry lasts a lifetime ;)
My step-daughters (29 and 31) have also told me that wearing hose is out and a sure sign that you're NOT HIP!!
If you dont like the faux tan because you don't like your legs I would go with a very sheer natural pair...with nude heels/toes in case you toss them after dancing....definitely not black. I visit my brother-in-law in SCal and I promise you'd be the ONLY woman there with black.Be sure and get a french pedicure before you go!
When in doubt........Do what makes you feel classic!
yeah never was in the hip cool crowd, and now that I am in my fifties, it has become such a nonissue, my confidence, my smile, my love of others, are what I wear, and what they see, the clothes on my back, and my stockinged legs are barely noticed.
Amen!
I was never hip anyway - stockings for me! I agree with Lynnette that stockings make you look more polished. I think it is unprofessional to not wear stockings to work/funeral, etc.
Who Started this bare leg thing? Let me tell you I don't like it at all. I have things I need to hide on my legs. They are not the smooth gems they were when I was 20, but yet there it is in every movie and ad a woman just slipping into those God aweful stillettos and dancing the night away, or running after a cab. Who are they kidding? If I jammed my arthritic feet into one of those stilletto heals, I couldn't even walk, let alone run after a cab. So for my daughters wedding I'm wearing hose, I'm wearing something with a sensible heel, and putting my best asset on, my marvelous smile. Come on 50 and above, let's make our own statements, and dress the way we feel best, and let the 20 year olds kill their backs and feet for awhile, till they see the folly of dressing to please others.
which is the best tan spray product for the legs? I have never used one but may try it. Trust it does not go all over your clothes. I was watching someone on QVC or HSN that said u have to be careful how to apply it as it may turn your hands red. So i guess one should wear cloves? I just noticed that i have little veins on the back of my thighs. I guess that was from standing for a long time in Macys when i did a part time job there to supplement my income. Bummer!
I agree.... met a gal today with very high heels on…I was telling her I use to wish I could wear them but couldn’t because of my deformed knees…she laughed and said “OH, my knees hurt , but I will wear them until the day I die.” I just smiled and said to myself….Yeah we will see in 10-15 years…if your knees are hurting now just think about what they will be like after your kids have worn you and them out and you’re looking at living in a wheel chair the rest of your life…. Silly, vain, young woman.
I'm, 55, 4'11" and still wear them. Have worn them since I was 15. Never had nor now have problems. The key is to never force yourself into something that makes your feet hurt. And yes, there are comfortable high heels.
brava!=]
Wear what you look best in and feel best in...forget the rest...The young things that go around in a party dress without hose look undressed and not ladylike at all to me. I will tell you though, be careful and don't wear panty hose(support hose( that are too tight...I ended up with my cartilage under the knee cap being worn away because of the daily use of panty hose and the inward pressure they put to the knee cap(patella). As a professional dancer, they were always part of our routine. Ski leggings are troublesome for the same reason. My surgeron is one of the most know in the world and he warned me. Took a 7month rehab after surgery to get better.....I now love spanks......and only wear hose when I need to.
Love this....and I agree
I don't know who started it but I love it! Especially in the summer months. It's wonderful not to have to put on panty hose. But, then I live in Mississippi where the temperature ranges from the 80's - 100's 4 - 5 months out of the year!
I agree with you completely! Stilletos are especially cruel shoes, the type I used to love, but no more.
I'm with you! I'm 51 and I have varicose veins and thick calves. I have my daughter's wedding in Sept. and I plan on wearing a black Lacy skort thingy with big legs. It'll hid any imperfections!
Totally agree , its ridiculous and no amount of advertising will convince me they are not miserable in those shoes .Plus the no pantihose thing is definately for young movie stars. Ill be dag nabbed if this old woman is going to start spraying on her tan .Nothing looks worse than someone my age with her old lady skin and orange tanned legs . I may not be a fashionista but this much I know !
Forget the hose -- tan the legs and relax and enjoy the day , the weather and the people!!
You obviously don't live in Canada.
I would definitely agree that you shouldn't wear black hose, but none at all? I think I would go with a very sheer natural shade and wear them no matter what anyone else said, but that's just me. But you said the dress fabric is very sheer, so what I'm wondering is: What will the dress look like (and what will other people be able to see under there) if you DON'T wear hose. Are you planning to wear a slip? If so, definitely go 'hose-less' if you will feel better around your relatives, but I thought slips were even more passe than pantyhose! :P If you're not planning to wear a slip, I think I would feel better with the pantyhose.
BUT... the bottom line is that confidence is beautiful and you should wear whatever you are comfortable with.
All this talk about passe vs non-passe is making me head for the supp hose counter. Wear what you want!
Waer panty hose if you want...but I would not wear black except to a funeral in the daytime. Wear pantyhose everywhere but Haiti...Men like stockings and they are pretty sexy...if you want t feel sexy wear a belt with stockings.
Have fun...
Sharon
~The Baby Boomer Queen~
For both S. Cal as well as AZ...you would be too hot most times of the year in panty hose. I second the suggestion to use a self tanner. If you aren't comfortable with one, go to a salon and have it done, if not at home, then when you get out to the West Coast. They are all over the place out here! If you think you'll be more comfortable in panty hose, then go that route, but I think you'll be happy with the results of the tanner...be brave...give it a try. :)
Totally agree.........lived in AZ for over 20 years (from NJ too!).....the spray self-tan places are great, and you look very natural afterwards.
People seem to be forgetting that most weddings will be held indoors, and if not, under a tent with heaters, so getting cold probably won't be an issue.
I am also surprised at the number of women who commented and who seem to be so defensive about not wanting to keep up with fashion, sound like they don't care if they look good, and sound like they are proud of being frumpy. It's not about looking like one is still in one's 20s; it's about looking current and pretty at any age.
P.S. I'm 64 and love to follow the fashion trends, including bare legs when appropriate. I am lucky my legs still look good, and I don't have the vein issue, but self-tanner and leg makeup certainly help that, unless it's such a severe problem.
Ladies, fashion is fun. Looking good is fun! Don't turn into grumpy, humorless old women; life is too short for that. CHILL!
FancyFran, I agreed with you up to this point, but we are parting ways when you label women as grumpy, humorless old women, women proud of being frumpy, when all most of them have said is that a woman should wear what makes her feel comfortable. If you are not physically or emotionally comfortable with what you're wearing you will not have a very good time. Yes, fashion can be fun, but it's not a type of fun that is of interest to everyone. Actually, some will be happy to point out that slavishly following every fashion trend regardless of how it looks personally reveals a featherweight mentality, though I'm sure this is not true of you at all. Not from reading your previous posts, no. Then there is the expense involved in going to a tanning salon and getting a French pedicure. On top of buying a dress, a present, plane fare, not everyone can afford extras, especially in these times. Looking good is fun, and looking classically good is just as nice if that is how a woman would like to present herself, in my opinion.
My opinion was the comments sounded grumpy and as if some women were proud of not caring how they looked, which is different from being comfortable. Whether people want to admit it or not, appearance is a key way we are judged in the world, before we ever have the opportunity for people to get to know us. There are all kinds of options for purchasing products, if one chooses, and the local drugstore is usually very good and relatively inexpensive.
Point taken.
sigh, amazing how many women have bought into societies version of us. It almost sounds like your are saying that if we don't agree with this statement we are grumpy, doudy, "old" women. I wonder if tribes of old had these worries. I think not. I think we need to develope both inside and out. I stear clear of a lot of drugstore chemicals, my body is something I try to keep pure. I was a hospice nurse for 25 years, and the people I thought most beautiful, had soft smiles, wrinkles, white hair, and a positive attitude.
Bravo for you, you have a perfect physique, not all of us are blessed as you are. Fashion bows to you. The rest of us, well we make do with what God gave us. Grumpy humorless, old women? Harsh and kinda snarky. Life is to short for that kind of comment.
Okay, so I'm ancient, but when I was growing up, the girl who did not wear hose was sending out the message that she was too poor to afford them (talking about high school in the 60's). I would never have worn a skirt or dress without hose. Now I'm at the age when I really need some help getting my legs to look better. And going bare is not the answer. I think the answer may be wearing hose that is extremely sheer, but I have trouble finding any. Does anyone know of a sheer-sheer pantyhose? Debra
Yes! And I have them on today. It's by Hanes I know that--unfortunately....until I take them off this evening I won't be able to tell you the particulars! All I know is that they are so sheer and light that even when I have a run it's almost unnoticeable.
I have to say that I do as I please and to hell with what younger people think. I think that being a woman of a certain age, I know what is best for me. Many things that look great on a woman of 24 look foolish on me and besides, I became invisible at about 55 to most younger people and no matter what young friends or relatives may tell you, they would be grossed out at seeing a woman old enough to be their grandmother swanning about dressed as a 19 year old. For me, that includes wearing a dressy outfit without stockings. If panty hose aren't appealing, wear a garter belt and real stockings; they're sexy and retro, not passe. That's kind of how I think about myself; sexy and retro.
I have had the very same question - there are times when wearing dark stockings just doesn't look right with the outfit and in the winter months - bare legs look stupid and are also cold! So now what?
musicwith, I agree with the others that say forget your CA relatives' passe comment. I've seen women at work without hose and they did not look professional and nor did they look polished. To me, they looked like they were trying to be younger and like they were going to a picnic or some other like event. Besides, I have read from the professional "experts" that it is considered professional to wear hose. I know that you are going to a wedding, but I would say that most women just do NOT have the legs to be bared. My opinion is wear what is comfortable for you. After all we are NOT 20 any longer. The trend is even extending to the "non-wearing" of trouser socks. I'm thinking that this would make your feet sweat and your shoes smelly sooner than normal. I'm just 51 (but look to be about 35 yrs. old), I guess I'm not with it and I don't care . . .
My only advice is if you do wear hose, make sure they're high quality. Cheap hose look like cheap hose!
HB
I think you'll feel dressier with the pantyhose, and besids, a wedding is usually a verry dressy occasion, but I'd go with taupe rather than black. Februry can be cold, even in California, so nix the bare legs.
yes, taupe is much less severe....especially with a flowing dress....
What should be passe is worrying about dressing in something that you are uncomfortable in because it is fashionable. I agree with an earlier comment that you project that you feel good in the outfit you've chosen. Go for it and dance the bear-legged girls under the table.
Wear fishnets, pick you color. I love them and they are comfortable and always in style as far as I'm concerned. My experience is, the're never a bad choice, women and men have commented on how good they look from formal to casual dress. Also, they hide a multitude of sins on the legs as well as feet. There you have it!
B.L.Sarafin , Berea, KY
So whats with the overwhelming recommendations for self-tanner? My skin is pale all over--if I'm going bare-legged (oh, the glorious freedom!) I'm going au natural. I seldom wear hosiery in the summer and I just let those big ol' white legs flash in all their glory. At first I felt self-conscious since I live in sun loving Denver, but now I really enjoy it. May through early September it's the big sun hat and cool, bare naked legs. I refuse to kow tow to the sun worshiping culture of the self tanner,tanning booth or hours broiling in the sun! (Not to mention the serious health risks.) Pale can be cool & sexy, too!
I'm laughing here. This is a hot topic isnt it??
Ever since I first saw Sarah Ferguson wearing bare legs "because it was trendy" I hated the look. Ive acquiessed and done the same but when its a really special occasion Ill go the panty hose. A lovely tan pair with the cut outs between the toes for summer or sheer toes for winter or opaques. Did Diana ever not wear them? And she wore black hose with white dresses. Panty hose are beaytiful, they are the difference between class and being 'a dedicated follower of fashion'!!! I say bring em back!!!
Yes, I believe that Diana also went bare-legged sometimes. I agree that Sarah looked terrible with her bare legs - I was shocked! But then she's hardly a "fashionista" is she? I'm pretty sure that I've also read that the Queen goes without hose in the summer - that REALLY shocked me! As a Canadian, I say wear pantyhose when it's cold and I still wear a very, sheer tan colored pantyhose when it's hot unless I'm wearing pants or a long skirt - both of which I tend to prefer now for most occasions.
I like to be fashionable but only when I "like" the fashion. Some fashions don't suit we Srs. and we look just plain stupid when we try to look like a 21 yr. old. Why don't we set our own standards of what is fashionable for women over 50? We need people to design clothes that are flattering to figures that no longer can pass for 20 - even if our faces can - lol! I mean - does Joan Rivers' face go with her body???? Nope! But I still love her anyway - at least she isn't a phony.
And I'm with you! One of the great moments of my life was when they finally started making hose in my leg color! They still do, too... I go bare legged in the summer (except for formal things like weddings - and yes, some jobs, as I freelance and my clients vary.) Dark legs on me always felt silly, as the rest of me is still pale!
I must admit I am the same way, but then again I don't color my gray either, and I am told I do not look like I'm in my 50s, gray hair and all.
I agree with those who say "do what makes you feel comfortable." Remember that poem "When I'm an old woman I shall wear purple?" This one of the perks of being an older woman! We don't have to kowtow to the fashionistas!
The truth is, if we are confident in who we are and feel good in what we are wearing, the people who see us are going to see how we feel about ourselves more than what we're actually wearing.
Living in the South, I see very few women of any age wearing hose at any function.I believe in dressing as you please within the bounds of the event you're attending, and if it pleases you to wear hose - do it. I do think that black is not a good choice except for cocktail dressy evening affairs, but again if they make you feel good... Your friends are trying to help you fit in with their regional crowd, and believe me southern CA is far removed from your neck of the woods.
The last time I wore hose was for a job interview. I believe you should always check the lay of the land - you can go with the flow after you have the job. If you have some pre-wedding social gatherings, you should get the lay of the land and decide if you want to fit in, or just be yourself.
Perle
Dear Music,
My advice would be wear what makes you feel comfortable. If you want to wear hose then wear them. If you want to try the spray on tan then do so before hand so you know if you like the effect. Don't worry about being passe just about what makes you feel good about you! We are over 50 and in my opinion we have earned the right not to be intimidated by what others define for us. Now there is a boundary even for me... knee highs and a shorter dress just look a slight bit bizarre so I would never go there. Music be who you are and have fun at the wedding. If someone is judging what you have on then they are not defining you, but instead defining themself as somoene who needs to judge. Life is way too short for that!
When my daughter got married the first thing she asked me to do was take the panty hose off as she believes is the fashion expert at 25, yes panty hose is passe , I have never found panty hose comfy at all seems to always bind up or if a person is a bit overweight yikes tummy seems to pop over the top, if needed I buy the hose that have build in elastic and I find these so much more comfy.
I suggest no to the black panty hose and go more for a netural color
Good morning I live in San Diego, and agree, no hose and escpecially not black! If you need to wear something then try spanks, they come in different lengths, hold you in if needed, and get a great sandal to go with the dress! I agree, people will not be writing about you wearing nylons or not, and if you do need to wear the panty hose, then make it a neutral. Have fun and enjoy our 70 degree weather we are having. Maryanne
Great discussion and one my friends and I have had at length as well. I live in Florida and it is considered perfectly acceptable to go sans pantyhose anytime of year. We are the sunshine state and frankly it is too hot most of the time to even where them. Also as we get older we also begin to shed those pantyhose simply for comfort's sake.
However, since this is a formal event, pantyhose are still considered to be dressy. I recommend as have the many women before me, that you wear them if they make you feel more comfortable.
By the way, I am very fair and my legs are pale. I love to use a lotin with a hint of self-tanning agent in them. That way, I can go without pantyhose when the weather is much too hot to wear them and not feel out of place.
Have a wonderful time at the wedding!
Warmest regards,
Heidi Richards Mooney, Publisher WE Magazine for Women
The plum sounds divine ... but ditch the black hose. Do go with hose but a shade with a bit of a suntan glow. Black hose with a sheer dress ... very PA, not CA (or any place else). Oh and I AM from PA :-)
I love the bare legged look for most people, however, I agree that the shape of the leg would weigh heavily in this decision. if you have white legs with blue veins showing, I would go with the spray tan or with hose. I think a sheer tan colored hose would be better than the black hose, too. Do what you feel comfortable with doing because you know what looks nice on you and what you are comfortable with wearing. California is the perfect place for doing your own thing!
I am wondering the same thing. I live in Ohio and my son is getting married in May. Spray tan, pantyhose, help!
I can not believe someone in California made a comment about any form of clothing. I live in the San Francisco Bay area and the only thing you can say is people in California wear what is comfortable for them. You can attend an elegant event and one person is wearing diamonds and another is wearing jeans.
Wear what makes you feel good. If wearing panty hose with your dress makes you feel pretty do that. Someone must be wearing them as there are plenty in the stores.
All I can suggest is that if you decide to wear open toes do not wear the hose.
What I think is interesting is that "they" say hose are passe, but if you are going to go bare you should put something on those bare legs like the tanners and so forth. Nobody is saying, if you like the looks of your bare legs just as they are then just go bare. Apparently something must be done. Sigh, I grow weary chasing their standards.
I'm thinking it is those matte pantyhose that are passe. I'm thinking if you want a polished and well groomed look about you, wear the sheer hose if you like even if panties are attached. I'm thinking we can resist spending even more money on cosmetic than we do already and pass on the unnatural tanners. I'm thinking if you get to a certain age and there are visible signs of aging on your legs you have a choice....cover them up whichever way works for you or just get used to it. There is something to be said for accepting our bodies as they are and not trying to meet a standard that very few can reach...not even the professional models... and berating ourselves for being not quite perfection. Besides, they keep changing the standards.
Well, I've noticed that there are a lot of women on the TV shows that are showing their bare toes in those incredibly uncomfortable-looking 5" stiletto heels!
Passé? I don't think so. I asked the same on Facebook one time, when I saw my umpteenth person that day without any hose. Perhaps they are passé if you are 20 and have great legs with a tan (and smoothly shaved - please spare us all the stubble or flattened hair!). However, I would hazard a guess that most people over the age of 30 would still wear hose. I grew up in the "time" when you wore colored hose that coordinated with your outfits. I don't do that anymore (still have some white and some plum pantyhose tucked in a baggie in the drawer! Ha!), but I still wear tan color. (I'm an untanned white girl!)
My personal guess is that going without hose is the only way to keep those too-tall shoes on your feet without falling off/out of them. Once you put on hose, your feet can slide. Without hose, you'll probably "stick" to the shoe, and have a chance of them staying on your feet.
I do agree that it could be yet another ploy to get us to buy more stuff like the self-tanning sprays. However, I'll pass on the chemical sprays and just shave my legs (Nair never really works for me) and wear a pair of hose myself. They look much nicer, IMHO. I never did have awesome legs to begin with, but I think it looks much more finished and polished to wear hose. I also wear half-hose with slacks (I don't like the way regular panty hose feel under slacks) or with trouser socks. (PS - for those who still just shave and Nair-like products don't really work for them either - shave like normal. After your legs are dry, use a product called "Pretty Feet and Hands" on your legs. You have to put it on and rub for quite a while - most folks don't realize how to use the product right. What it does is roll off dry or old skin, making your legs/hands/feet feel very smooth and wonderful. My skin on my legs has gotten drier as I've gotten older, and this stuff works wonders. Lotion does not take away that rougher outer layer of dryness, but this rubbing lotion does. Just don't give up - it'll take 5 or so minutes of rubbing it back and forth - it will roll off dry skin and crumble, so have a towel beneath you. Sounds gross, but it isn't that bad, and well worth it!)
Either way, get a pedicure and enjoy the wedding!
Even though it is a winter wedding, based on the location, tan hose are completely okay for late Feb. I'd wear a tan shade of hose and feel comfy in your own skin, dressing the way you are used to, and remember the reason you are there.
Pantyhose passe? Not here in New York City... They've even been selling footless hose so you get the advantages of hose with the bare toe in sandals!
I think it varies by area - and weather. Our climate is not the same as in California.
I'd probably wear hose, in your position - as I have to summer weddings here - but I'd go for a light or natural sheer. I don't wear black in the summer, and I can see it might be out of place in California, though it's what I usually wear in winter here. I'm comfortable barelegged as much as possible - but I don't have visible veins, and I don't need support, and... it's a fairly personal decision.
I think you should wear what makes you feel beautiful.
I'd think twice about the BLACK hose, though.
No, pantyhose are not passe for me. I would not go to a wedding or funeral or church without them especially in cool weather. I do not believe spray tans are good; they have chemicals in them. Wear your pantyhose unless it is 90 deg.F
This post is so timely for me. I guess Im a little slow but I only recently noticed that NO ONE was wearing panty hose anymore. Im sure its just an age thing..but I still feel a little under dressed when Im in a suit or nice dress and wearing nothing on my legs. I ve loved the cold weather as Ive been able to wear the black tights but as things warm up..Im looking at two very pale ,freckled legs..and thinking they looked pretty nice in the hose that are no longer the "In" thing. The tanning lotions work well..but its not the same slimming effect as those nice "tummy tucking" hose used to create.....
Since I became ill & handicapped (wheelchair bound), I admit I havn't worn any, summer I'd leave my legs bare, or wear nylons, sometimes with garter belt, (my legs are rather pail, I'll burn befor I tan. Winter, panyhose as warmer. Are they a thing of the past, I know many women who think so, including my daughters, but perhaps it's the generation I grew up in, as I still wear them, and feel they give a sensual look.
Do what you feel. Err on the side of wearing hose if you feel more "finished" wearing them. Heck you can always take them off later. Just don't be a fashion disaster by doing what's "the trend" as stated by others. Who cares! What's important is that you feel confident and good. Confidence is always "au courant" and the best adornment you can have! That and a pretty smile given generously!
Hi Musicwith. The wedding is just around the corner so I hope you are ready with your decision regarding your legs. You just have to report back here after the wedding and tell us what you decided and if it felt right and how you enjoyed the wedding. Your question sparked a lot of interest and ideas. Have fun.
No one has mentioned Thigh Highs. Do they really stay up?
LET AMELIA EARHART BE YOUR GUIDE!!! She did what was comfortable for her and it worked. She wore pants and jodphurs when "ladies" wore dresses and skirts. She cut her long, blonde hair very short when"ladies" wore their long hair up. She was comfortable in her own skin and that's what you need to be, too. Good luck and God bless!
yes agreed. do your own thing but KNOW what that "thing' is that suits the unique you. . Comfort for one, is discomfort for another. Whatever you choose to do, its important that you feel beautiful. If you feel gorgeous, youll be able to hold your head up. be proud and then no matter what anyone elses opinion is, they'll be left wondering " How can I achieve that sort of poise???? Confidence is the key and if you wear what you KNOW looks wonderful, then you'll ooze that confidence that everyone longs to achieve!!Define your style of beauty and wear it with pride.. Sophia Loren does!!!
As far as I am concerned hose are not passe, but then again I live in the cold midwest where I can't imagine wearing a skirt without hose during 9 months of the year. I do think it is unprofessional to go bare for work but folks in the midwest are a lot more casual than the northeast where I spent 45 of my 51 years. Personally, I would do what I am most comfortable with and with the color that best suits the outfit. With closed-toed shoes hose are absolutely acceptable. Sandals, as mentioned before, require no hose and a good pedicure.
Well, put it this way, you can get away without hose, but I think it is always fine to wear them.
Musicalmom: An age thing? No. I go hoseless @ 60, my sister goes hoseless @ 50 and most of my friends ranging from 20's to 70's go hoseless as well 99% of the time. I'm pretty sure this is because it is the south. I attend Chamber functions and see suited women sans hose, in great open-toed shoes with perfect pedi's peeking through. Weddings? Some hose, more in winter than in spring of summer. Funerals? Same thing.
Citylady: I agree. It's an uptown city thing. In the late 70's, I wore hose some of the time in San Antonio, but when I moved to Dallas, hose became de rigeur almost every day. Dallas & Houston were our 'NYC'.
Cheat and lose wgt: I know many of my overwgt friends have opted for 'Spanx' in lieu of hose. They get that sleek look with a garment that lasts longer than one wearing and won't suddenly run and spoil your great look.
And a city *in* the northeast... Here, I wear black hose three seasons a year, as do those around me, but I can see that the black might not work in a warmer climate. Fashion is much more regional in this country than most people realize!
I will say, hose are not mandatory here, as they used to be. I do freelance sales support, and work in some of the finest stores in the city. 5 years ago, hose were part of the dress code for sales associates - now they're usually not. And I was startled to see even some of the higher level buyers and such barelegged in summer, which I would not have a few years ago. They're wearing hose or tights now, though... it's cold!
I personally like having bare legs - though I'll only do it for work if I'm wearing a longer skirt. I mostly wear tights - also fashionable right now, around here - or go barelegged - hose mostly when I'm dressing up. But that's here - my black tights would look odd in much of the country.
Three years ago this coming summer was the first I noticed that hose seemed to be "out." A dear friend of mine came to an outdoor wedding w/out any hose and I was embarrassed for her; she looked like someone that forgot to finish dressing; she is 65 now and I felt so bad for her. Even so, I succumbed to the "trend" and quit wearing them myself. I felt embarrassed and underdressed, lacking the confidence I usually feel when I've gone to the trouble of getting perfectly groomed for an event. The next summer I was noticing hose were "back" and I was so glad. But if you have the legs to go w/out and feel comfortable, I think it's fine. My legs, and those of my friend, are just too white to go w/out. A part of me feels sad that we give in to what we think is in fashion when we know perfectly well that we'd look better going with our gut feeling than what the latest trend says to wear. I'm now wearing hose again, and feel much more polished. The only time I feel okay about NOT wearing hose is when I wear a really long cool skirt in the summer with sandals, when no one can see my legs. Apart from that, I just don't feel that I look my best w/out hose. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but even at 58, I have women of all ages asking me for advice about what to wear and what looks good with what. So that's my story, and "I'm stickin' to it!!"
I agree Nadine - there's a difference between loving fashion and being a fashion victim.
I'm not fond of sheer black hose, I think sheer flesh-colored would be fine, especially with closed-toe shoes. Pantyhose do give a nice finished look, and they firm up your legs, especially if your dress is short. Of course, if you have the legs of a twenty year-old, go bare.
Passe? By today's definition? I don't see hose being passe as a fashion statement or otherwise. They still serve a function. Seems like not wearing them when a person is in a formal dress is like being half dressed (sloppy) without them. IMO. Some of us still like to feel ladylike. Guess I'm old-fashioned. :)
Hope I'm not too late to add my 2-cents' worth, Musicwith. I agree with your CA relatives - ditch the hose. If you really can't ditch the hose, splurge a little and buy a pair of Donna Karan's The Nudes stockings. I get mine at Nordstrom, but I'll bet Macy's or Dillard's or any major department store carries them. The nudes have a huge selection of bare looking shades - and since I'm fair and don't tan, I purchase the color A-01 to wear at those times when I really, really have to wear hose when it's not wintery outside and then I always wear tights. But I digress... these DK stockings look absolutely invisible. And, you can still get your tootsies painted. Try Clarins self-tanner. Won't wear off and isn't orange. Good luck! Have fun!
Wearing a pair of black satin ones under pants, today.
Must be cold to wear 2 layers.
Yes, it was. It helped to give a smooth line, without any breaks from under garments.
Not only that, a bunch of college aged young women were wearing nude and black hose, as well as opaque and textured tights, etc. I was surprised to see as many wearing hose as I saw. We were attending a conference and had to wear suit attire. Maybe it's a midwest thing. What was surprising was that I didn't hear anybody suggest not to wear them. I guess I was sensitized to this from stuff from what I hear and read about this topic like this post.
Other than that, I do it mostly to stay warm and to protect my shoes from perspiration. Especially when the whole shoe is enclosed. I'm not averse to going without. I go without wearing hose, almost always when it's warm and the shoe is open toed. I put baking soda in small paper towels under my feet, so as to keep my feet dry and pleasent smelling.
Fashion is as fashion does, and also as it don't.
Hi Music! To hose or not to hose depends on the comfort and comfort level of the wearer-to-be. I live in North Carolina, and since it is still a little chilly, I still wear my pantyhose to church; or when it's COLD, I wear opaque tights. I also still wear pantyhose when what I'm wearing needs me to be a little more tucked in or smoothed out. However, I would choose Hanes Reflections in the color "Quicksilver." The short answer is: Wear the hose because to you, hose are not passe. Hugs, Feather
As a personal shopper/stylist, hose are out of fashion in most cases (except for some tights,patterns). Bare legs for dressy - much more fashionable. Watch the ladies on TV - do you see hose? Sally Hansen air brush legs, Light,med. or dark. Shower, shave legs, apply light moisturizer, spray SH on hand and spread lightly over legs - light on feet. Is "water resistent", works great. Lasts 3 days - don't use soap on your legs in shower. I use it all year long. Give it a try!
LOL. The last thing I want to do is look like the artificial "ladies on TV". I go bare when the dress and the occassion are suited for bare. But otherwise (and almost always for weddings and funerals) , I wear the hose, I'm not alone in my neck of the woods.
I don't think Diane Sawyer is artificial - do you? What ladies are you referring to? It can be a personal choice but be careful, you can definitely date yourself very quickly.
I don't think Diane Sawyer is artificial - do you? What ladies are you referring to? It can be a personal choice but be careful, you can definitely date yourself very quickly.
I think Diana Sawyer is a beautiful, elegant lady, with poise and grace. Why do you think she is artifical?
I agree with your statement. But we're talking about fashion. I like Diane Sawyer, as a smart commentator with decent interviewing skills. I'm not the one singling out Diane. There's an exception to every rule. (But I certainly don't like her helmet-hair style and painted-on face. That's artificial). Coincidently, I watched an interview she did after I saw this thread. Guess what? She was wearing panty hose!
On my - are we jealous? Definitely not "helmet head" or "painted" on face. She is a classy lady who exhibits great self-confidence.
Jealous? Well, maybe, I'd love to have her bank account. But her hair is unnaturaly stiff, and if you took a chisel to her face, it would crack. I agree with the last sentence 100%. But you told us to look at the ladies on TV. I did. And the lady was wearing hose. You didn't say I had to make a career of looking at them. :)
Nuff said about panty hose. Life's too short.
Everyone's entitled to their opinion but for the record...if I can look that good at 64....bring on the helmet and war paint!
She is elegant, sophisticated and intelligent. Only used her as example on watruw8ing4 statement about "artificial" women on tv. Rather judgemental of other women. And, she rarely wears pantyhose which was the topic. I am sure we all on occasion have worn them. But currently, not as fashionable.
You sound like a fashion victim.
Thought it was said enough had been said about this topic. Not a victim but an extensive/current background. It is always the individual's choice - just nice to have all info to make that choice. Fashion is fun, always changing, sometimes good, sometimes not so good.
I don't see why you shouldn't wear black tights. All of the younger women are wearing them with nothing over them...yes, just black tights, boots and a short coat. So why in the world would black tights be passe?
Um, because we're not younger women?
Also, the writer was asking about black sheer hose. Big difference.
What color are your shoes? Leather or poie de soie? What time of day is the wedding? What color are you?
All those elements need to be taken into consideration. Personally, I'm in favor of an ultra-sheer pantyhose to match your skin-tone or, if it's an evening wedding, even an ultra sheer off-black pantyhose. Hanes and Berkshire carry great lines of ultra sheer colors that disappear on the leg. Who's to know you're wearing pantyhose? If they comment, tell them they're standing much too closely to you.
Bare legs to a wedding? IMHO an unfinished, unVibrant look.
My $.02
i agree. Plus, I do not know about you ladies but the back of my legs are beg to show very little veins and i am a dark skin woman (less visible than a fair skin woman). I am not comfortable with a no hose to a formal affair except if the dress is midcalf length with pretty open shoes. As a matter of fact i am going to start that look for the Spring. I am tired of wearing pant suits all the time, where it will be a good place to find dresses and skirts this length?
Dress for yourself, not so much for others. I must wear support pantyhose and if you look nice, who cares if you do not have a California tan? We get too caught up in what other people think is ok. We need to be pleased with ourselves and say the heck with somebody else's dictates. I was in a bad marriage for a long time because I was trying to please someone who had an addiction. Someplace along the line you learn to take care of yourself and accept yourself and know that you are ok without taking a negative response too seriously.
We have earned the right to dress however we please and feel comfortable. Of course there are some that will go overboard...those wearing next to nothing, showing too much flesh, etc. But for the majority of us, we have enough sense to wear what's comfortable and presentable. I for one have given up hose a long time ago. I went to my 35th class reunion 3 years ago in a short (not mini...just above knees) denim skirt, and I had tanner on my legs. They do look better tanned. But I looked damned good girlfriends! I was blessed with no veins and decent legs, however I take care of myself, and work out to try and maintain what God gave me.
I say do what ever floats your boat ladies!!!
You go girl! I bet you look great. True, some ladies reveal too much. Sounds like you look good but dress appropriately for your age which is important. Keep up the good work...
Ive enjoyed this post..as I mentioned earlier in it..Ive found the whole "hose or bare leg" issue conflicting. I happen to notice on the BBC channel last night..the BAFTAS were on..which is the Brits version of the Academy Awards..and every single woman..whose legs were exposed...young and old..were wearing HOSE!!!! Most of them were black sheers..not tights mind you..but black sheer hose. Is this bare leg thing just a USA trend??
I almost never see hose with the Brides I work with. Hose are passe with younger women. Dark, patterned like fish net, yes, I said fishnet is really popular now. You may see what's available in a pattern. They either tan, use tan lotion or nothing at all. My feeling about what you are thinking is for you to wear just what you're planning. It's still winter and wearing dark hose on closed toes shoes is formal. So. Cal is probably going to be warm so not wearing them and putting the lotion on is a good idea, then you may have to wear different shoes. It's like dominoes, change one thing, and it all has to change. Be comfortable.
It will probably be in the 60s the day of the wedding. Personally, I think that fishnets would look ridiculous on a woman over 50! With all of the beautiful sheer hosiery out there these days, I cannot understand the conflict. Remember, ladies, this trend was started by the younger generation who have ,on the most part, beautiful, unscarred, unlined legs. If you have the legs of a young woman, go for it. Otherwise, wear the hose. Food for thought-while shopping at the local mall, I noticed many young woman wearing rather sheer sundresses. Guess what? They have also decided that slips are passe!! Well, they should dig one out of their mom's lingerie drawer cause it is not pretty to see everything under those dresses! Should we also follow that trend?
My son had a girlfiend who actully showed up for dinner wearing something like that. She was wearing a thong to boot. My other son's GF and I were speechless. He told us later how embarrassed he was.
Have you actually seen the hose I'm talking about? There are designs from neutral to the far-out dancer types. Really, check them out. I hope no one thinks I'm ridiculous and in fact, I get many compliments. The texture and beige color is just right and not overbearing to the rest of the outfit.
She should wear what she wants. Hose or no. Be comfortable.
What you describe your son's GF wearing is gross! And at a dinner! But I must admit I hate slips! I've stopped wearing them but always wear lined dresses and skirts. I usually found myself fighting with my slip rather than enjoying the occasion! I also don't wear nylons. I use tanning lotion but I'm self-employed and work at home. I might change my attitude if I worked in an office, etc. By the way, I live in So. Cal.
I have thoroughly enjoyed all your comments. Thanks to all of you!
Her dress was very sheer and standing next to a light wasn't helpful. He isn't with her now. Thank God.
I wear tanning lotion and wear my skirts, dresses and shorts below my knee. Just below. I think knees are ugly and very telling of age. Plus, the tanning lotion seems to concentrate on elbows and knees.
I was born in San Diego.
OOPs! I almost forgot we were talking about pantyhose, tights, plum, black, nude, spray tan ...
I'm confident you'll figure this one out with all of these suggestions.
Moving on.
I have enjoyed this topic tremendously; REALLY learned a LOT and appreciate Vibrant Nation for the trend they have started here for topics pertinent to us women over 50....thanks to all for your comments; sure helped me in my fashion journey, and journey it is as we age, we have to change our style too, don't we? Thanks!
How was the wedding? Hope you had a great time. I hope the rain didn't interfer.
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