Vibrant Nation

This is funny I just had this discussion with my youngest daughter yesterday,whos son is getting married. Usually the Mother of the Groom wears a very neutral color,such as beige,or since its summer a pastel such as creamy color,yellow or pinks,soft blue,depending on the colors of the wedding. You don't want to look like you are in the wedding and the Mother of the bride will wear something close to the wedding colors,you want to be neutral,you will shine with out out shining.

I think rules for the moms have changed.  Talk with bride.  There is no reason for the mothers to fade into the background.  My daughter got married last summer and the mother of the bride wore a lovely beige suit shot through with gold, but I wore a fushia halter dress.  (the bride's colors were pink, black and silver).  The attendents wore black and the bride's dress was of course white, but had a ballet pink train and pink draping at the bust and down the back.  Rules have changed...

Find out what the color scheme is.  Depending on the wedding, your dress can be a little more vibrant but shouldn't have more "glam" than mother of the bride.  I had a situation where my son got married and the mother of the bride was a very plain department store shopper..  She choose a simple long dress with no beading.  I choose a lace dress, tea length in silver/gray.  Her dress cost $200, mine about $600.  We both looked beautiful and true to what we wear on a daily basis.  You could go floral, just don't compromise your style of dress.  PLEASE DON'T WEAR BEIGE OR BROWN, unless those are your colors. 

Go have fun, this is your wedding too.  Just a little more reserved.

How joyful... your son will soon be a groom and then a husband! I am a personaly stylist and I truly believe that this day is all about...EVERYONE...including you and you deserve to be your most beautiful and most comfortable!

If you are close to the bride ask if there is anything she would hate to have you( or anyone waer) on this special day and go shopping with a dear and trusted friend to select the best outfit for this wonderful day. A summer wedding has many options and the variables can be huge.Formal? Casual? Garden style?As long as this is not a black tie or formal cocktail style vent I would look for something that gives you much joy and makes you grin from ear to ear as you look in the mirror.

Beauty comes is all sizes, colors and ages.If you haven't found your dream outfit yet please feel free to visit my website  www.myfashionforward.com and I'll help you out...my wedding gift!

Joani

When my firstborn son became engaged, I was horrified to hear more than once that the mother of the groom should say nothing and wear beige - neither of which fit me! But I did take to heart the point of the message, which was to be careful with my speech and, like you mentioned, NOT upstage the mother of the bride or anyone else for that matter.

When he got married two years ago, I found out the theme colors of the flowers and reception. There were two main colors being used. My attire was in one color, and the mother of the bride wore the other. We looked like a coordinated team in the receiving line!

As far as style, I went with what I personally felt was appropriate. I guess I call it understated elegance. As mother of the groom, you want to feel your best, so choose something in which you feel comfortable and beautiful.

Sherrie
http://www.creativecareerpaths.com/

Definitely check with the bride, with whom you should have a relationship with, and her mother regarding what color she is wearing. You definitely should wear something complementary and something that does not clash with either the moms or the bridesmaids as --no one mentioned this--you will have some pictures taken together and do not want to clash.  Enjoy your day!

I too am having this issue.  My future daugter-in-law wedding is cherry red and the girls are wearing black tea length with red sashes at the waist.  I went into Nordstrum's and talked to an associate there and she said the mother of the groom should wear a shade ofo blue.  My future daughter in law wants me to wear red and I don't look good in red.  So I'm still undecided.  If they would first settle on a date - that would be helpful.  So I'm not even sure of the time of the year yet.  It's changed - I think we're at the 3rd change at this point.  Frustrated and I know the mother of the bride is very conservative and I'm not - so I have issues with that as well.  She's tiny and I'm a plus size - so I want to look very good - especially because her family is so very small. 

Ther bride said "black"  I asked "cocktail or church"  no choice.  Said her mom in black too.  Her mom was "christian and did not pay for booze" So I choose church.  Long black vneck jerzey dress.  Well her mom was in silver metalic cocktail.  Guess it was a good time to underdress.