Vibrant Nation

You don't gp with him!  He doesn't respect you, he will never change, and all his lies about it being just a boost to his ego and he won't actually do anything are just that, lies.  At this stage of your life, you can do much better.  Why settle for second best?  I would break up with this loser and find someone who is worthy of your attention.

An addiction is an addiction is an addiction . . . You will always come second in this man's life.  He will always lie to you to "cover his _ _ _!"  Wow what a life! I don't like the word always. Most of the time always is an overstatement.  But in his case, it fits.  Do you want to always feel like you do right now?  Then keep him in your life!

Hi,

I see from you profile that this someone is your husband, not so easy to just drop and move on, is it?  I completely understand.  Do I stay, do I go?  My SO had the same problem.  At first I didn't know it was going on as we were not living together at the time.  Then I started getting emails from someone that I didn't know and it scared the crap out of me because I felt like I was being stalked.  This person knew things about me, where I was going, what I was doing on the weekend.  I had no idea what was going on.  I started changing my routes to work, started dropping pounds like crazy and ignoring the emails, all the while trying to figure out what the heck was going on.  Then I started getting phone calls at work.  Now I can't even do my job anymore.  Well, it turned out that this someone was a married woman from a neighboring state my SO met online and started seeing.  Needless to say, things got very interesting after that.  I called her at her job and I also called her husband and gave him an earfull, too. 

As for my SO, we split for a while and gradually got back together, working through it all.  Do I trust him now?  NOT FOR A MINUTE.  He is living in my home now and using my computer.  My computer is now blocked of these websites.  We have split up more than once over this and believe me, it's no fun.  Then throw in the rest of life's dramas and pretty soon you have too much to handle, which is just about where I am at right now.  Am I happy?  Not really?  Am I ready to make a big change?  Almost.  Am I tired of being treated like a second class person?  Yes.  But there is something to be said about the comfortable slippers as opposed to the new pinchy shoes.  Or something like the devil you know as opposed to the devil you don't.  I don't know, it's a tough decision and I don't like to be in this position. 

Before my SO, my ex-husband used to do the same thing (this is pre-internet) so he was going to the bars, staying out late, coming home with women's phone numbers, says he just wanted to see if he could still get their numbers, he wasn't going to call.  Blah, blah, blah.  And he wonders why he is an EX!

So, for now, I do my own thing.  It is not the best relationship and soon something is going to change.  I'm just not ready yet.  You and I will both know when the time is right to make a move.

He is cheating on you, plain and simple. There are many ways to cheat, and THAT is one of them. You and his EGO should quickly part ways, period. And, if he is cheating this way, he is cheating other ways, trust me!

The closest thing I  have encountered is when I found my then fiancee masturbating to a porn video in the bathroom connected to our room. I just could not get past the thought that he used this for arousal and then would come to me. I was heatbroken. I found out this was a series of addictions, which included drinking, drugs etc. I have a friendship with this person because I believe him to be a good person with many problems.